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User Topic: I may be the mean one
SBB
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Default  Posted: 1:56 AM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I live in an apartment with a security entrance and there is no way in hell that scuzbag is ever stepping foot in my home.

I love the imagery of the pyjama'd arm coming out of the toasty warmth, grabbing the envelope from the icy cold and delving straight back into the warmths. The dude on the end of the cheque doesn't even matter in this imagery - the cold encompasses everything.

Stay warm RFA, stay warm.

BTW, I can't believe people still use cheques. Does he douche-deliver all of them in douche person?

Unbelievable the shit they'll pull just to talk to or interact with us given how hard they tried to have us running for the hills.


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

Posts: 4574 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 3:01 AM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do You Mean That Some D or LS BSs Actually Let Their Xs In???

For real! My ex has not been back in this house (that I know of) since the day I kicked his sorry ass to the curb and Hefty Bagged the rest of his shit. When he shows up for the kids I send them out to the car, he doesn't even come up to the door. No fucking way I would open the door with him on the other side. For one, I don't trust that he wouldn't come in & kill me. Two, I don't want him to have a view inside the house when the door opens. Nothing. He doesn't see inside, he doesn't see me. It's better that way.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8792 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When he shows up for the kids I send them out to the car, he doesn't even come up to the door. No fucking way I would open the door with him on the other side...........He doesn't see inside, he doesn't see me. It's better that way.

This is how I handle it too.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2379 | Registered: Jan 2010
bluelady
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My sister's husband has an ex like this. Shortly after my sister moved in to his home (one that he had bought AFTER the divorce. The ex had never lived there), she came to pick up her kids. Didn't bother to knock, walked right in, plugged in her cell phone, grabbed a water out of the fridge and plunked down on the couch to wait for the girls.

My sister was rendered speechless, which is a feat all its own.

Since then, BIL makes sure that the door is locked, forcing the ex to knock, when she comes to get her kids.


Me (BS): 33

Divorced


Posts: 1421 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: a little bit of everywhere
haysuth01
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My sister's husband has an ex like this. Shortly after my sister moved in to his home (one that he had bought AFTER the divorce. The ex had never lived there), she came to pick up her kids. Didn't bother to knock, walked right in, plugged in her cell phone, grabbed a water out of the fridge and plunked down on the couch to wait for the girls.

I have nothing constructive to add, but... that woman must have a hard time walking with the size of those balls.


XBS
Divorced 5/07.
DS-7! What?!
Happily remarried, B/G twins (4).

Posts: 219 | Registered: Jul 2010
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would not let XWH if his life depended on it. And I HAVE left him sitting outside in bad weather while I get DD's jacket, boots, coat, etc. on. Fuck him.



D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 2803 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
PhoenixRising88
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Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

not much to add here, except YOU GOOOOO Rising!!! Atta girl!!


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 408 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it bad that I laughed out loud at you opening the door just a peep, grabbing the envelope and slamming it shut? Hilarious!


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1102 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL, some of these posts remind me of a conversation I had with a friend not long after dday. She was concerned that if XWH showed up at my door, crying and begging forgiveness etc, that I might cave and let him in. I told her I would not let him in if he were the last man on earth, AND had crawled naked through a blizzard over a mile of broken glass to lie bleeding at my door. I would dial 911 and consider my obligation to him as a fellow human being met. Beyond that I owe him nothing.

Yes, I was pretty bitter back then. It's mellowed now, but I still wouldn't let him in or even open the door, for any reason. When he chose to leave, he closed that door forever.


Me: BS, 45 Him: XWH, 45
Together 8 yrs, married for 5
DDay 04.10.13 Divorced 05.14.13
Two furbabies

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


Posts: 567 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
PhoenixRising88
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've begun to think of my STBX in the same context as a horrible food allergy. No matter how attractive or tempting it may sometimes be, it is SOOOO much healthier for me to not engage!


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 408 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
Oftencheatedon
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You should never allow strange men in your home. period.

And an ex is just a "man you no longer know". He's certainly not a friend.


Posts: 82 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: AL
PurpleBirch
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it just me, or is waving that cheque around kinda like snapping his fingers? Come here girl *snap snap*. I love that you shut him down by opening the door only wide enough to grab it. Awesome work.


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautifully executed rising! You get a round of standing applause from me.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 783 | Registered: Aug 2011
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Is it just me, or is waving that cheque around kinda like snapping his fingers? Come here girl *snap snap*. I love that you shut him down by opening the door only wide enough to grab it.

I had not thought of it like this. I am beginning to enjoy this more as time goes by!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My father has never been allowed to step foot in the house that my mother and step dad bought. Ever.

My step dad once asked my mother if he could wait inside by the door, because it was frigid outside. She said "No. He can wait in his truck if he's cold."

That's the way it is.


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