Ride through the wave. It will pass and the urge will go away.
The best revenge is living well - indifference will get you there.
I had an draft email ready and waiting to go outing OWIndianSheMan (DD OW) to every religious and cultural group in her hometown. I remember researching it, finding all of the email addresses, typing them out and then crafting a fantastically damaging email.
None of that felt anywhere near as good as deleting that draft a few months later.
It is difficult but we have to evict the OW/OM and X out of our hearts and minds completely.
I still have anger towards all of them but its more in an 'you are an affront to the sisterhood' way. Not in that primal injured animal way.
I've been 'lucky' in that the OW have all been invisible to me. None of them were my friends. It sure would be harder to be indifferent if they were in my face all the time, but I'd still be working hard to evict them.
The biggest impact on my level of indifference isn't their actions, it is mine.
I cringe whenever I read posts of venom towards the AP. I do laugh at the funny ones but others make me sad. I wouldn't want to make them or X anywhere near that important.
'Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.'
^^This has bounced around my head from the moment I first heard it.