But here is my problem:
Last month I settled a lawsuit due to 2 car accidents. H knew I went to mediation, as I was gone all day. Knows I settled.
I was VERY vague to the settled $$ amounts (told him less than the actual total), and when I will rec. the $$.
Well, it is soon gonna be deposited in my account.
MY account! NOT ours.
Since he knows nothing of our pending D/S, and will want to know the particulars I am at a loss as to what to say. I do all the finances so I am thinking of just saying it got deposited, and leave it at that. His inheritance was put in our joint, but there is NO WAY in hell I am gonna do that.
I can only put this off so long. I feel like the cat may come out of the bag waaaaaaay before I am ready.
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man, ~ Shakespeare
Phoenix- in our state settlements, and inheritance, become joint only IF I allow him access to it, or put it in our joint account. As long as it is in my name only it cannot be part of any settlement.
(hence that is why I pushed SO hard to get his check in our account!! ) bitch, I know, but oh well wouldn't be here if not for him!!
Of course, the moment that you know that you're filing and he'll be served, you ARE going to take 1/2 of what's in the joint account, right?
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Most car insurance settlements in Arizona are community property based on the fact the car was community property. I knew a person who that the same thing who divorced in Az. It ended up being community prop.
LME, yes his money is now "comingled". He could have kept it to himself, and there would not be anything I could do about it. although I would have to disclose the amount, if it is separate it stays separate. This is per a few lawyers, and people who have btdt.
bodily harm injury
crisp, ^^this is exactly what it is for. I have some permanent damages to my poor, old body!
So far he hasn't brought it up, and my L is still out of town. So far, so good.
Skan, it, unfortuantely, will be quite some time before I can file. Don't want to rock the boat until our biz is sold. Makes me want to crawl in a cave