Topic: Curious- What did you do with your rings?
Member # 39668
| Posted: 9:48 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
Bottom of my jewelery box, in a drawer, out of sight.
I've never worn any of the diamonds or anything else he ever bought me again, either.
[This message edited by PhantomLimb at 9:52 AM, January 6th (Monday)]
BS / D
Posts: 724 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 41673
| Posted: 10:34 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
My wedding ring is at the bottom of the Wabash River.
Posts: 240 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Indiana
Member # 34697
| Posted: 10:40 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
Had an engraved wedding band.
D-day...took it off and put it in my purse.
10 months later...D finalized...pawned ring and went to casino...played black jack...broke even. Threw chips in purse and carried around for another year...
Until ex-shat married stripper whore a few weeks ago...took chips and hit black jack table again. Had a delightful evening and left table with enough money to treat myself to an excellent, super ritzy steak dinner.
Posts: 4030 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 11176
| Posted: 11:39 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
I took the original promise, engagement, wedding and 12th anniversary rings and had the stones removed and made into a beautiful necklace.
After decades of not wearing his wedding band, FWS had it cleaned and resized and wore it until the day he was cremated. I have that ring.
FWS bought me a new wedding ring on a cruise to Alaska with different stones. My original set had diamonds and emeralds. My new one had diamonds and tanzanite. He also asked if I would wear a wedding band since my line of work was not condusive to wearing fancy jewelry. We got a simple band made of tungsten steel which I wore.
I wore both wedding bands until I lost weight and nearly lost both bands when they slipped off my fingers. Then I wore them on a chain along with the silver cross he always wore. Now the rings/cross/chain sits in my jewelry box. The diamond and tanzanite ring I wear occasionally on the right hand.
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
Posts: 6230 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
Member # 18442
| Posted: 12:27 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
yes you are allowed to keep your own rings and do as you wish.
My ex tried to steal mine. he said if I sell it HE gets the money. Bullshit! its a gift. I sold it and paid bills.
I still need to sell my wedding band which I love. Try diamond bistro.
6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
11/12 short marriage to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess. Nearly Divorced.
Posts: 649 | Registered: Mar 2008
|Grace and Flowers|
Member # 34431
| Posted: 1:08 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
Wedding rings are a gift to you, and belong to YOU exclusively.
I took some needle nosed pliers to my wedding band and chopped it up into tiny bits and threw them at WXH. He carefully gathtered up the pieces. He said they "meant something to him". He apparently keeps the pieces, along with his wedding band, on his nightstand.
I have no idea what to do with my engagement ring. It's a beautiful marquise solitaire. It's the only diamond I have ever owned, and I will not likely own another unless I buy it for myself. It really is beautiful, but it just seems poisonous to me now. I wouldn't wear it if I made it into another piece of jewelry, but I can't seem to get rid if it either. So it sits, in my jewelry box.
I'm Happy, not Sad!
Posts: 1098 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: US
Member # 26071
| Posted: 4:20 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
Mine are not worth very much money. I have kept them both for my children, maybe one of them will want to use or at least have them.
D-Day: 6/5/09, drunken ONS on business trip, confessed immediately, transparent, remorseful but emotionally clueless
M 11 years, 3 kids
4/12 Tried to R for 3 years, have decided to D
12/31/12 D final
Posts: 508 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: PacNW
Member # 40496
| Posted: 4:24 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
I was going to sell mine, I'm going to need the money. It makes me sad to think about it, I loved my rings but to me holding on to them doesn't have a point to me. I think it will just remind me of a broken promise.
Me: BS 29
Him: WH 28
Together: 9 years, married 3
DDay: August 2010
OW: Escorts/Craigslist (escorts and strip club on our honeymoon!)
Posts: 135 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: NJ
Member # 40268
| Posted: 4:29 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
my 15,000 buck engagement ring she " lost" and called off wedding two weeks later! red flag ignored! then my wedding band I threw in the sewer on D day. no regrets
"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"
Posts: 562 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
Member # 32810
| Posted: 6:27 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
Wow, giving the wedding set to the mistress after buying it from the ex wife. That's a new level of klassy.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Posts: 13005 | Registered: Jul 2011
Member # 41150
| Posted: 6:45 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
Went down to the garage and used a pair of dykes to cut it so that the perfect circle is broken... the symbol of a broken promise.
Set it on the dresser in the exact same spot where she left her rings before she walked out (Oh yeah, she took her diamond when she left). I see it every morning.
Reminds me not to ever get fooled again.
Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.
Posts: 245 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 30346
| Posted: 7:04 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
I popped the stones out and kept them, but sold all of the gold and bought furniture!
One day I'll make earring for my daughter with the stones...
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 40, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, separated 3 years, together 17
Alis volat propriis "She flies with her own wings"
Posts: 3435 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
Member # 33226
| Posted: 7:40 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
Sold his wedding band, my wedding set (the diamond was lost years ago and never replaced - think the universe was trying to tell me something? ), and the anniversary ring ring he gave me at 10 years. Used the money to pay the filing fee for the D.
You can call me NIK
"Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in." -Cohen
Posts: 21789 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 22870
| Posted: 7:43 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
I traded mine in for another diamond ring and a kick ass set of diamond studs. They give me joy ( and make my girlfriends laugh) every time I wear them.
I took his and sold it for the gold. I took that money and blew it at the casino.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 6749 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 33698
| Posted: 10:04 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014|
I sold the wedding ring right away. I'm still trying to get rid of the engagement ring. I have no idea what XWH did with his ring, nor do I care. I do know that he promptly replaced it with a new one when he married CommandOwife before the ink on our divorce papers was barely dry!
BS (Me) 39
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Posts: 3319 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 29289
| Posted: 6:14 AM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014|
I sold all three rings ... and donated the money to a local woman's shelter.
Posts: 367 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Back Home ... And feeling Great!!
Member # 38424
| Posted: 7:44 AM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014|
I posted my engagement ring back to him.
Funny thing is it broke not too long after we got engaged. It is quite symbolic really.
(sorry edited due to a type-o!)
[This message edited by dindy at 2:44 PM, January 10th (Friday)]
Posts: 414 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: uk
Member # 39902
| Posted: 7:12 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I sold mine !!
Why keep it.
Posts: 77 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 40274
| Posted: 8:55 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I am thinking about what to do as well. I have an engagement ring that was pretty expensive, wedding band worth nothing, and then he gave me a diamond eternity band for our 10 year anniversary that is worth a lot. He was already having his affair at the time he gave me the eternity band, so I guess it means that for all eternity he will be a douchebag. HELLO??
I certainly don't want to wear either or give to anyone as they seem cursed. I think I want to sell them, but where is the best place to sell them to recover some of the value??
Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...
Posts: 401 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
♀ New Member
Member # 39564
| Posted: 9:42 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
wow, slow hand clap to those that chucked their rings in a lake, river or any other giant hole in the earth. I love it.
I'm so cheap that I'm going to pawn mine and maybe use it for a new bed and mattress set.
Me (BS) 39 Him (WH, SA, covert NPD) 40
Married 8 years, 2 young kids
DD1-Right after engagement 2004
DD2-Email from OW 2008
DD3-2012-Him diagnosed with cancer, I thought we grew closer, he kept cheating.
Posts: 37 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
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