I took DD to see Frozen this weekend. As I sat there watching the whirlwind romance between Princess Anna and Prince Hans, I was thinking "Red flags. Red flags!" It wasn't really an A situation, but it sure made me think of the various ones I've witnessed IRL and through SI.
They sing a song about how perfectly suited they are...after one day.
"We finish each other's..."
"I was going to say that!"
I thought to myself "mirroring". Such an AP attitude...
They shared how their siblings froze them out. I thought, "FOO issues".
Hans said something like "I have a crazy question to ask you. Will you marry me?" Anna replied, "I have a crazy answer. Yes."
I thought about how it's a red flag to push commitment early in a relationship. It usually points to personality disorders or at the least emotional issues that haven't been dealt with. Like how MrH wanted us to get engaged within months of our first date. I put him off by agreeing to a promise ring.
I told myself I see red flags, Disney will Disneyfi it. I made a mental note to talk to DD about the situation Thankfully they didn't. It did turn out that the guy with the red flags was bad news. It naturally led to a discussion rather than me having to bring it up.
Then there's the whole scene with the trolls where the guy that helped Anna out is told the engagement is just a thing...they don't see a ring. I didn't touch that as it wasn't part of the bigger picture and we have years for that attitude to come to the forefront.
I really enjoyed the movie, even more because it led to a talk with DD about what to look for in my partner, what are some red flags and how we can't truly know someone in a very short period of time.
"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*
❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣