Thank you, Dare. Your straight talk this morning and afternoon are helping a lot.
If you read previous posts from both of us, this issue is the issue.
His anger and inability to see what's going on outside his own feelings and reactions is devastating for everyone around him.
The very worst part, as you said, is the effect on the kids.
It was extremely painful to hear my youngest daughter ask me as she cried, "Why doesn't he love us?" Then, this morning, to have my oldest two kids tell me how relieved they were to wake up in a house he wasn't in. That they loved him, but couldn't stand seeing that anger anymore. That when he was "him" they loved him so much, but when he was consumed with anger, they couldn't take being around him anymore.
He really does think we're all against him. That his intentions and perceptions trump everything else, no matter what.