But I get to fully experience the costs of the aftermath. My deep depression for the first several weeks after DDay meant that most nights I couldn't muster up the will to cook, so despite the fact that I was barely eating we had to buy dinner somewhere to eat at all.
I also had to throw away a drawer full of produce from the fridge -- it all went bad before I could work up the will to cook it. The pepper plants out back all died with a whole crop still on them, now gone to waste.
There was also some hysterical shopping for both of us -- I think just as a distraction. And manicures for me, a new habit I've picked up I guess in competition with the high maintenance OW.
The AD's are cheap since I have insurance but I still have to pay for the doctor visits.
To top it all off there's the MC and IC. Even with insurance, at $65 a pop I'm spending considerably more on that than I do on my freaking car payment.
I guess it's cheaper than D. No questions or requests for advice... just airing my feelings and wondering if anybody else is in the same boat.
Until I started adding up all the MC, IC, prescriptions, lost work, eating out, ordering in, liquor (I self medicate...or, used to), tobacco, airline tickets to OM state to scare the shit out of him, etc. I don't even want to consider the IC costs for the kids which they'll come asking for when they are 28.
In the end, the cost of MC/IC, the dinner out, etc. Was all worth it. We are stronger than ever in 6+ years of true R and one more child later. I am still the breadwinner, and he considers himself the "saver". keeping me from spending too much on shoes...
True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.
We could have had a second home....
I'm not worried at all about the therapy bills, my personal trainer, my new closet full of clothes, etc. As my brother said after DD, 'he will pay for this." Yep, and money is not the only way in which he will pay.
Yes, cheaper than divorce…but you still have to teach them a lesson where it seems to rattle them the most.
My best line from all of this was when SAWH provided A timeline and accounting, I said, "well there is your boat!." The boat that he complained we could not afford. OK there is your boat on the wrist of that bimbo and the money you spent on all of those trips and etc. There you go!!! I asked him what he thought about all of that money that he spent and he said "Not good."