Topic: 1 month since d-day
Member # 41575
| Posted: 8:40 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014|
1 month since my life imploded around me. My WH has been remorseful and is in counseling and being transparent with everything. I have cried every day since I found out. The holidays kept my mind busy and now that there over I can't help but think about it constantly! Every song I hear on the radio or if I see a love scene on tv, I just can't control myself and start crying. Too many triggers. I just hate this so much. Why did he have to be such a selfish jerk!
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids 14yo & 2yo
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R
Posts: 68 | Registered: Dec 2013
Member # 40392
| Posted: 8:58 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014|
I can feel your pain friend. I'm 8 months out and still a total wreck. Infidelity is a bitch and I don't wish it on my worst enemy ( maybe a few) just saying. Keep yourself as healthy as possible. Your in good company and lots of good advice here. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”
Posts: 296 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
Member # 30396
| Posted: 9:03 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014|
The pain is pretty overwhelming. I actually quit listening to music It has made me angry to get rid of it, however, in the long run it was less painful. I also was very careful with the movies and TV shows I watched. I avoided love scenes, breakups, A's or anything that would be a trigger.
I will say my house was pretty clean. I actively worked to keep my triggers as few as I could. It doesn't prevent them, however it can help decrease them.
Hugs to you.
Married 30 yrs, together 33
Affair Aug-Dec 09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
Posts: 1396 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
Member # 41181
| Posted: 10:15 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014|
Sorry to hear this, and you are in good company here. Keep posting and read the Healing Library. Are you in IC? ((aero1122))
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
Posts: 1104 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
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| Posted: 10:38 PM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014|
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