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User Topic: Been awhile...DS passed away
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((momxgbg)))

I am so sorry for your loss.


Posts: 35044 | Registered: Mar 2011
truthsetmefree
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm am so sorry for the loss of your sweet DS. It's just something that no mother can imagine. It fundamentally changes your life.

Please try to be kind and patient with yourself. I imagine that there are many, many things that have changed in your life - simpler things than a marriage trying to recover from infidelity. I'm sure just eating and sleeping poses it's own challenges.


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Edie
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, Dear momx,

This is so sad, I am very sorry for your loss. What a strain you have been under. I hope you can feel the support here for you and see the tender, gentle caring side of SI and stay away from the more strident and angry forums for now.

You sound brave and resilient but I do hope you will be very gentle with yourself. As caring to yourself as you were to DS.


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5101 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Emotionalhell
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My deepest sympathy for your loss.


Hugs


Posts: 84 | Registered: Jul 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry for your loss. ((((momxgbg))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25249 | Registered: Aug 2011
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss. (((((((Momxgbg))))))))

Please take care of yourself.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5053 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
cass
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so very sorry for the great loss of your dear son. I can't imagine.

Keep yourself and your girls at the forefront of your mind for now, anything else can wait.

(((momxgbg))) Peace, strength and healing to you.


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


Posts: 4965 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. (((momxbg & kids & even WH)))


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10030 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I am so sad for the loss of your sweet boy. It's more than anyone should have to handle.

I am glad you are back so we can help you if possible as you move through all of this.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6417 | Registered: Jan 2011
Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((momxgbg)))

I am so sorry for your loss. My mind can't comprehend the pain you have been through.

I wish I knew a way to ease some of your pain.


BW -- 57
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary

Posts: 418 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
happenedtome
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((mom))))). I am so deeply sorry for all you have been through and especially for the loss of your beloved Nate. I hope you can find some solace here with the very warm and caring folks of SI.

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your DS.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24495 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
dazdandconfuzed
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very, very sorry for the loss of your little boy. Be patient with yourself - you don't have to deal with all of this at once. The A will still be there to be dealt with when you are stronger. And of course you can always talk about it here on days you need to.


Me - BW
Him - WH

Posts: 6621 | Registered: Aug 2006 | From: Massachusetts
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm deeply sorry you lost your dear son. I cannot imagine. I have no words, but want you to know I'm thinking of you.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I have no idea about advice for you, except to ask if you're seeing an IC for yourself? Your IC should be able to help you sort through your emotions and help you figure out how you'd like to move forward. Beyond that, could you/would you be interested in attending a grief support group?

(((momxgbg & family)))

[This message edited by abbycadabby at 1:22 PM, January 10th (Friday)]


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so so very sorry for your loss.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6721 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
Hurtm
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry for your loss


DD day October 17th (my birthday, lucky me)
Married 9 years, two kids (4 1/2 and 21 months)
He moved out and we're heading for divorce. Currently working through all the fun legal stuff

Posts: 42 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Ontario
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

{{{mom}}}


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7994 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
ItHappened2Me2
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((momxgbg)))

You and your family will be in my prayers. I am sorry for your loss. Allow yourself time to grief. As a mom, I cannot even image the pain you must be feeling.

Hug on your girls!

Deal with the other "stuff" when you are ready.


BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the

Posts: 241 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Texas
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.

(((momxgbg)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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