Topic: Been awhile...DS passed away
Member # 31528
| Posted: 3:55 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I am so sorry for your loss.
Posts: 29442 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 7168
| Posted: 4:07 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I'm am so sorry for the loss of your sweet DS. It's just something that no mother can imagine. It fundamentally changes your life.
Please try to be kind and patient with yourself. I imagine that there are many, many things that have changed in your life - simpler things than a marriage trying to recover from infidelity. I'm sure just eating and sleeping poses it's own challenges.
When you become willing to give up the idea of the fairy tale prince, you no longer have to kiss frogs - or eat poison apples...or be locked away in castles...or even be home by midnight.
Posts: 7646 | Registered: May 2005
Member # 26133
| Posted: 4:31 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
Oh, Dear momx,
This is so sad, I am very sorry for your loss. What a strain you have been under. I hope you can feel the support here for you and see the tender, gentle caring side of SI and stay away from the more strident and angry forums for now.
You sound brave and resilient but I do hope you will be very gentle with yourself. As caring to yourself as you were to DS.
Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.
Posts: 4927 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Member # 39902
| Posted: 4:37 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
My deepest sympathy for your loss.
Posts: 77 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 33226
| Posted: 4:39 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I am so very sorry for your loss. ((((momxgbg))))
You can call me NIK
"Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in." -Cohen
Posts: 21800 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 36134
| Posted: 5:25 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I am so sorry for your loss. (((((((Momxgbg))))))))
Please take care of yourself.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Posts: 3759 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 24261
| Posted: 5:50 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I'm so very sorry for the great loss of your dear son. I can't imagine.
Keep yourself and your girls at the forefront of your mind for now, anything else can wait.
(((momxgbg))) Peace, strength and healing to you.
DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??
I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)
Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!
Posts: 4948 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
Member # 31240
| Posted: 5:52 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. (((momxbg & kids & even WH)))
FBH (me) - 65+, FWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together almost 49 (as of January, 2014)
DDay - 12/2010
I share my own experience not because I'm a good model but because it's the only experience I know.
Posts: 8528 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 30817
| Posted: 5:54 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
Oh I am so sad for the loss of your sweet boy. It's more than anyone should have to handle.
I am glad you are back so we can help you if possible as you move through all of this.
2 ddays in '07
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Posts: 5753 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 11185
| Posted: 5:55 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I am so sorry for your loss. My mind can't comprehend the pain you have been through.
I wish I knew a way to ease some of your pain.
BW -- 56
Reconciled with Un-Ex 2008.
Re-marriage planned for what would have been our 35th anniversary.
Posts: 389 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
Member # 6042
| Posted: 6:00 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
(((((mom))))). I am so deeply sorry for all you have been through and especially for the loss of your beloved Nate. I hope you can find some solace here with the very warm and caring folks of SI.
Posts: 187 | Registered: Dec 2004
Member # 26531
| Posted: 6:02 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014|
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your DS.
Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Posts: 23793 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 11692
| Posted: 10:16 AM, January 10th (Friday), 2014|
I am so very, very sorry for the loss of your little boy. Be patient with yourself - you don't have to deal with all of this at once. The A will still be there to be dealt with when you are stronger. And of course you can always talk about it here on days you need to.
Me - BW
Him - WH
Posts: 6615 | Registered: Aug 2006 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 36711
| Posted: 10:51 AM, January 10th (Friday), 2014|
I'm deeply sorry you lost your dear son. I cannot imagine. I have no words, but want you to know I'm thinking of you.
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Posts: 1194 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 27428
| Posted: 1:19 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014|
I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I have no idea about advice for you, except to ask if you're seeing an IC for yourself? Your IC should be able to help you sort through your emotions and help you figure out how you'd like to move forward. Beyond that, could you/would you be interested in attending a grief support group?
(((momxgbg & family)))
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Posts: 904 | Registered: Feb 2010
Member # 29341
| Posted: 1:24 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014|
I am so so very sorry for your loss.
We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.
Posts: 6030 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
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Member # 41102
| Posted: 2:17 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014|
So sorry for your loss
DD day October 17th (my birthday, lucky me)
Married 9 years, two kids (4 1/2 and 21 months)
He moved out and we're heading for divorce. Currently working through all the fun legal stuff
Posts: 38 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Ontario
Member # 34823
| Posted: 2:23 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014|
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Posts: 7004 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Member # 32503
| Posted: 2:26 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014|
You and your family will be in my prayers. I am sorry for your loss. Allow yourself time to grief. As a mom, I cannot even image the pain you must be feeling.
Hug on your girls!
Deal with the other "stuff" when you are ready.
BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the
Posts: 241 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 33698
| Posted: 3:59 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014|
I'm so sorry.
BS (Me) 39
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Posts: 3319 | Registered: Oct 2011
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