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User Topic: ...I love you but I don't like you...
joe blow
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know there have been a lot of posts about the old lie 'I love you but I'm not in love you with you'. Is this statement at all the same?

This isn't exactly what was said. Instead, the other day, I was told

What if I told you I love you but I don't like you? Would you still love me?

So you could argue that this wasn't actually said (as was done the other day), but it seems like hedging your bets - saying it without having to commit to having said it.

Much like the statement itself, I'm conflicted how to interpret it - do the two feelings exist simultaneously, or is it mood swings? I know in my case, my mood can swing wildly, so I'm leaning towards that interpretation.

Posts: 62 | Registered: Dec 2007
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, January 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha! My husband and I actually refer to a part of our marriage as the 'I love you but I don't like you' phase. It was just a tough time, new baby, back to back deployments. We got on each other's nerves. I was still madly in love with him, I just found it difficult to interact with him on the day to day stuff.y fuse was short and I was irritated. I don't know how it was meant for you, but that's what it meant for us. The love was always there. The grove was just off.

'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife said the same thing to me. "I always loved u I just didn't like u at that time". And instead of talking to me about it she gave me the cold shoulder and started talking to ANOTHER MAN!

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