I thought that she would be more upset, but maybe I misjudged her. Maybe I thought that we had more of a relationship than she did. I thought that she was in love with me, but I was not with her. I always second guess things like this. I just am a little happy that the breakup was not long and drawn out.
She is such an amazing person, and I felt bad for hurting her. I wish things could have turned out differently. I really wanted them to. I wanted to love her. I feel dumb for not falling in love with a girl that is the total package. Maybe the next one will be the one.
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[This message edited by LostandGuilty at 10:06 PM, January 10th (Friday)]
It sounds Iike it was a nice relationship that just wasn't meant to progress. She must have showed you something - like what it's like to break up in a healthy, respectful way. Or, what it's like to show compassion and kindness for each other even if there is no love. It was a gentle break up that will hopefully give you even more confidence in yourself and your ability to spot quality women.
Bridge people are good.
Honorably breaking up with someone is one of the biggest gestures of integrity to me. So many take the easy road and just fade off into the sunset, or put it on the partner to call it.
I'm sorry that you had to go through it - but you're a bigger man for being honest.
Don't feel dumb about this. Love is goofy and unpredictable. Crossing my fingers for you for the next one!
For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot
We actually laid together on the sofa, held each other, and broke up. We cared greatly for each other, but it wasn't working.
He showed me a lot of things, great sex, how deep an emotional connected can be, how to discuss things like adults. There was a lot wrong…but there were some things that were right too.
My gut reaction when you said she didn't seem upset? She probably could sense that you weren't all that into her and she was holding herself back, or could sense the breakup was coming.