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User Topic: My life feels like an episode of Jerry Springer
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been thinking about you today. I'm sorry that you've had to deal with all of this. I know today can't be easy. I hope you are doing okay.

BW: 41
WH: 48
Married 18 years. SD: 25 from his 1st. M. DS: 20 from 1st M. DD: 16 (autistic)

D-day: Oct. 2013 with ongoing revelations.
6 affairs, 1 OC, My sister was OW#5 with countless attempted A's.
Considering R but fully ready to D.

Posts: 277 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Everyone.

It's been a couple months since my last post and I know many of you are still really struggling. I wanted to post today to maybe give you all some hope that you can come out of this Hell.

For those that have followed my story I wanted to let you know that I am REALLY HAPPY!!! Honestly, have not been this happy in years.

I feel like I have found ME again and I realize now looking back how my WH picked me apart for years.

I think I even posted once how he told me that one of our good friends had supposedly told him "well, who does she think she is going to get?, Look at her." That comment stuck in the back of my head for 7 years.

I ran into that friend a few weeks ago and flat out asked him... his reply... "I swear I never said that and I know I never would because I always thought you were gorgeous." Can't believe I believed that for so long. He really did kill my self esteem over the years.

I have been dating a little and that is weird but fun. Dating in your 20s, guys had no money to take you on real dates. Dating in your 40s... much better : ) Nice dinners, concerts and actual chemistry.

Kids are doing great too. I really do think they see how you react and act accordingly. If you yell and scream or cry all day they are going to internalize. Show them you're happy and they will be happier because of it.

XH and I get along fine for the kids. Try to limit communication to texting, seems to do best but we are very amicable in regards to switching dates with kids etc.

Only real struggle I guess I have is the XBF. I ran into her at the gym the other day. I was so angry that she did not leave when she knew I was there. The lack of respect for my space and lack of remorse just kills me. It's a really small gym with a giant chalkboard for inspirational quotes. I walked over and wrote in huge letter "EVERYONE KNOWS YOU SUCKED MY HUSBAND'S COCK" and walked out. I know it wasn't very mature but I felt better.

I texted her later for the first time since everything happened and asked her to please find another gym. Told her it was the least she could do. We'll see what happens there.

Found out that XBF and her husband are renewing their wedding vows... how sweet. I've thought about sending them a bottle of Menage a Trois.

I want to thank you all again for helping me through my hell and I hope you all have peace and happiness in your lives too.

Just remember, life is too short to wallow in despair. I have watched too many good friends waste years of their lives. If we only get one life try to live it! Honestly your X is not worth it! Much love my friends!

[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 5:07 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]

I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, keep on surviving...

BS: me 42
WH: 48
2 kids
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Divorced 4/21/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched

Posts: 202 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Colorado
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BLIND!!! Excited to see you doing so well!! Fantastic news!


OMG!!! That's awesome! Your confidence and attitude has come so far! Love it! Where;s the head explode emoticon from too much laughter.

Send the bottle of Menage a Trois. Least you cold do.

Great to see you out and about.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 1961 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good to get such a positive kick ass update!!!! You totally rock , blind. Good for you!!!! You should be on the SI poster with your bitch boots on--- taking no prisoners. I love it!

Glad life is better for you. Keep going. You are an inspiration!

I've thought about sending them a bottle of Menage a Trois.

OMG. ^^^^^this!!!!! Please please please do it.

Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 657 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh honey, do happy to hear all is well. You rock. Do me a favor and read baseball mom's post. Show her you can survive the shit storm and come out ahead.

(((And happiness)))) (cause you don't need strength)

Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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