Not sexless here either but not as often as he wanted. Not sure why I wasn't turned on by him packing on over 30 pounds and leveling up in Assassin's Creed after 14 hours of playing it on his days off.
I try not to cringe when he touches me.(because he is a liar and I don't even trust his touch anymore)
For the past couple of years, as a rule, I sleep on the couch with one eye open.(he likes to hit me "in his sleep" and snores like a chainsaw. Used to hold me tight, but that was probably only so I couldn't escape. )
I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.
Little did she know my husband (when depressed) doesn't shower often. Sucks to be her!
Haha justice served bee-otch
I asked him before I knew about the A, if there was someone else. He said, how could I.have an A when I can' barely get.it up with you. I actually believed him. It was just so weird that he had never had that problem, so I was very concerned and confused. I was trying to.be understanding and supportive and he milked it for everything it was worth. Dam I feel like a dumb ass for buying that shit.
[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 3:49 PM, January 13th (Monday)]
Ain't it awful?
NOW - there is ZERO sex. And for YEARS. ZERO hand holding, looking into each other's eyes unless it is a mean look, or touching in ANY way. (Due to his disability, I do help with a sleeve caught up in the arm of a sweater, and I give him hair cuts.) Other than that NO TOUCHING of any kind.
So - YES - it does really exist.
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
. I was the BM in a sexless relationship for years at the fault of my WW, but I guess I don't count.
The question was, "Was anyone in a sexless marriage?"
Were only men supposed to answer?
No one would dispute that there are men in sexless marriages.
If anything, you might have chosen to interpret the number of posts verifying that many BSs were in sexless marriages, and not by their own choosing, as validation that you DO, in fact, have a great deal in common with many here.
Where did "I don't count" come from?
Were responses only supposed to come from the men of SI?
None of us is the WW who hurt you.
[This message edited by solus sto at 3:18 PM, January 13th (Monday)]
Who said you didn't count? Jesu, just because the majority who posted on this thread were BW's doesn't imply that there were BH's who were in sexless marriages because of their WW's.
Just seems to be a lot of man hating going on. There doesn't seem to be much respect for betrayed males around these parts.
"And this above all else, to thine own self be true"
Jesu...the BM thread in the ICR forum is one of the most popular threads here on SI...it is read daily..by the women of SI. Not all, but many,many of us read it. Now, before you get mad and say it's so we can point fingers and laugh, let me set you straight. No. We read it because the Menz are very honest about their feelings. it's raw and it's real. I know *I* personally enjoy it because it shows another side to men..one women..well, one *I* rarely get to see. I have a FWH who doesn't talk about his feelings often. Reading the posts made by these men have helped me understand my husband a little better(though he is not a BS). Also, go take a look in the JFO forum. Find the threads started by the newly betrayed husbands. You will find post after post of support for these men..by women. Betrayed husbands are VERY MUCH supported on SI.
This thread has a lot of BW's posting. BH's were not excluded. A few have commented. Im sorry that you seem put off by the posts the BW's have made. They are talking about their marriage..not yours. While it may be difficult to understand, not all men want sex all the time. But it happens. And they have the right to talk about it on here, without having to concern themselves with whether they are impressing anyone.
Your comment about the BH's not being supported here on SI is horseshit.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
I have also recieved an abundance of private messages supporting these concerns from others, validating my experience here. There's a lot of people afraid to speak out about it as they fear being attacked, and they are over the moon that someone like me has the strength to speak out...not just for myself, but for the multitude of other betrayed men.
Stick your head in the sand, tell me I'm wrong, attack me, put me down, tell me I'm crazy...but it is what it is, and I'm not going to be pushed down any further by insensitive people. I'm entitled to my views and opinions, and that should be respected.
[This message edited by Jesu at 5:22 PM, January 14th (Tuesday)]
I feel you are the one who is "hateful" towards women, imo. I have noticed you going into threads to specifically say something about the women disrespecting men. All prickly and looking to be offended.
BW are betrayed by WH. I usually speak of only my experiences with my WH (as I did on this thread) not about men in general. What, am I supposed to be happy that my FWH told me to "Shut the fuck up!" and then want sex with me 15 minutes later? I didn't say "men" do that, I said my WH did that.
I have said negative things about someone else's WH, not a BH. But, again, it was that specific WH, not MEN!
Yes, I have seen threads here that someone started making a generalized statement about men. Those are usually pretty quickly red flagged by a Mod. Or, a member will point it out, oftentimes a female.
If you want to visit here and be all thin skinned and look for posts to be offended by, I am sure you will be able to find it.
Attacking BW's who aren't "man haters" because you are hurting isn't very becoming or helpful to anyone. It is rude and offensive, actually.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
MC_Jack, I don't feel anyone was trying to impress you.
Who said you didn't count? Jesu,
a concession of a mostly sexless marriage but with it being the man's fault: not doing enough, not being attractive enough, etc.
I would say I was in this situation. I would say I was in a sexless M, by my xWW’s choice because she ‘didn’t want to’. And, no matter what I did I couldn’t change that. OTOH, all OM had to do was tell her how good she was at her job and she would drop her pants.
I’m not saying the same is true for all the BW’s on here, but can see why these BH’s would have issues with the W’s saying this.
No one here is discounting the BH's. If they were in a sexless marriage because of their WW, why don't they post? This topic "Was ANYONE actually in a sexless marriage?"
I don't feel there is "man hating" going on here, it is our WH's "hating" going on. We would happily read WW "hating", too, if BH would post.
No, I don't understand where MC_Jack or Jesu are coming from. We are talking about WH's not BH's.
Im sorry for the BH's who had WW's who never wanted to have sex, then turned around and had sex with someone else. Just as I am sorry for the BW's who had WH's who never wanted sex, yet had an affair.
I don't see very many BW's posting that they didn't have sex with their WH's because he was ugly. I see a lot of them saying they were being abused, verbally and emotionally. I see a lot of them saying they were ignored..and that their WH's invested very little into their marriage, yet expected them to drop their panties because his dick was hard. I see women talking about their husbands.
Im mostly sorry that this seems to have triggered some of you.
Not sure why I wasn't turned on by him packing on over 30 pounds and leveling up in Assassin's Creed after 14 hours of playing it on his days off.