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User Topic: ws trying to creating family moments
neverwillhapn2me
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, January 11th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WEll....

My WW is trying to create family moments by using the kids.

she will bring my 7 months over and tell him to smile for Dada or when she is playing with my 5 year old tell him to call me over to play as a family.

Today she continue to send me pics of my 7 months old. They were all adorable but it just seems she is using the kids to save this marriage instead of doing the work on herself that is needed.

Or showing true remorse, transparity, honesty. Damn at this moment I would take one but none nothing.

" bring out the broom honey I will lift the carpets so we can hide your A here"


its not working im still filing for D


The saddest thing about betrayal is it never comes from your enemies


If your searching for that one person that will change your life, look in the mirror.


Posts: 142 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Ontario
traildad
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, January 11th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got this too, mine was a clear reminder that my xww was a complete narcissist, she thought she could pretend everything was alright and it would be. She wants a family without doing any of the work to be a part of one.


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
one2ndchance
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, January 11th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I told my WH that I was filing for divorce and he was not welcome to join our extended family Christmas Dinner, he actually seemed surprised. He said, "Gosh, I didn't think it would be like this. I saw us still going on ski trips together. I thought we would be friends."

They just don't get it sometimes....


Me: BW 59
Him: STBXWH 61
Married: 25 years
DDay1: 2/2002; DDay2: 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorcing

Posts: 479 | Registered: May 2007 | From: California
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, January 11th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What WSs don't understand is that no amount of 'Cute Kid Pictures' will erase the mental pictures of them with AP.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1633 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 12:20 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unbelievable! Freaking clueless. (((((Neverwillhapn2me)))))


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 4:15 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Without the other requirements for R, I think she's putting a major guilt trip on you sending those pics. And using the kids like that is just plain cruel..

It's sad when they are so unremorseful and don't take any responsibity and then try to make you feel bad for their consequences for their mistakes. Don't let her manipulate you into thinking it will be your fault if the kids are hurt by a divorce. She broke the family up, not you. She had plenty of time to think about the consequences, but she decided to be selfish and put herself before her family.

I know how painful this is for you. I think you are seeing her for who she truly is. Sending lots of continued strength to you..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2065 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
neverwillhapn2me
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Default  Posted: 4:45 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Butterflygirl,

Looks like we are both sleepless tonight. Some more interesting events occur early. My WW family decided they would show up for a surprise visit. They no nothing about her A. Although they maybe suspecting something is going on. I did not attend any of there holiday functions this year. Together almost 10 years haven't missed one before the A.

Anyhow back to the story at hand, they call WW say we will be there in 5mins. WW comes into my little retreat AKA master bedroom and tells me. I responded with no problem but I will be leaving. She got annoyed with this and said they will only be here for a couple of mins. I told her I can not fake this marriage and I would not be rude by hiding in my room.

I should have continued with If you choose to confess to them I am more than willing to stay. Never thought to say that earlier. DAMN IT!!!

WW has not come clean to them she continues to tell them lies about where I am. ( they probably think im a dick by now)


I came home about an hour and a half after they left. Go straight to my retreat and jump on SI,( FYI I am practicing the 180) WW comes in to get something and is so PISSED that I am still ignoring her, she pauses, staring at me but I ignore it and keep reading posts. WW takes a deep breath and storms out and is in the process of slamming the door but somehow gains self control and stops.

Not sure why, maybe she knows I would not even acknowledge it.
Maybe she realises that I will not be the one to chase her anymore to resolves matters. I was always the one to initiate communication when we were at odds with each other, even when she was in the wrong.

NO MORE, im done chasing her and solving all our problems. The foundation that was this marriage ( ME) is being pulled from under it.

Oh believe me I know im not perfect and that I somehow some way contributed to the demise of our marriage. But the time to talk about these things and resolve them was before the A.


The saddest thing about betrayal is it never comes from your enemies


If your searching for that one person that will change your life, look in the mirror.


Posts: 142 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Ontario
GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was just made to attend my kids' birthday party at my old house. WW insisted I posed for family pictures and kept bossing me around (I mostly stayed as far away from her as possible). It was awkward to say the least.

My friends know I don't live in the house anymore and luckily one of them was at the party (and I mostly talked to him), but I don't think many of these parents knew.

It took everything in me not to make a speech to, ahem, clarify some things.


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 683 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
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