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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Many of my favorite movies.

Four Weddings and a Funeral (fffuuucckkkkk!!!)

When Harry Met Sally (the symptom is fucking my wife)

Sleepless in Seattle

Breakfast at Tiffany's

Love Actually

Addicted to Love

For the most part, I find action movies are the safest for me to watch.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gawd, I could go a rant about the Notebook. Hated the movie and our Book Club had us read it. Yuck! Hated it even before I knew I was a BS.

One person in our Book Club insisted that you could get a person to come out of their Alzheimers haze if someone did what James Garner's character did, read their life story to them every day. That was the day we almost had fisticuffs in our Book Club.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

With a gun to my head, I might be able to come up with a romantic movie that doesn't include infidelity in one flavor or another, but without the gun? I'm drawing a blank.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The one that was very triggery for me lately was the Decendents with George Clooney. It made me cry. It is all about infidelity and the husband finding out from his teenage daughter and the WW is in a brain dead coma. It was very triggery for me and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone JFO. It did however go through all the steps that a BS goes through once they find out. When my husband seen me crying he did give me a hug and tell me once again he was so sorry.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

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Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think The Descendants would have been difficult to watch in the first year or two after d-day, but by the time I watched it, I actually really liked it. It didn't show the A as being all romantic and wonderful, but portrayed it as the life and soul crusher it really is. I liked that it showed the affair partners as scummy for doing such a thing to their families. The A was never justified, except perhaps by the WW's parents, who didn't like their son-in-law.

I hate the ones that show the A's as being the answer to a troublesome spouse at home, and justifying them.

It's been 4.5 years since d-day for me, and while infidelity stands out like a sore thumb in movies (that I wouldn't have thought much about pre-d-day), I don't get yucky triggers anymore. Just an eyeroll, mostly, at how rife it is in everything.


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3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

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painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One person in our Book Club insisted that you could get a person to come out of their Alzheimers haze if someone did what James Garner's character did, read their life story to them every day. That was the day we almost had fisticuffs in our Book Club.


Where do these ideas come from?


It's so easy to believe someone when they're telling you exactly what you want to hear.....

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where do these ideas come from?

IDK...but I amazingly enough people can find new and inventive flavors of crazy all the time.


Another for the list...

Revolutionary Road


xBH
D final 8/2012

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littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Juno.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

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tara1110
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A lot for me unfortunately because me and WS watched movies a lot (at home or out) But the number one trigger movie for me is TROY... Not only because of the infidelity part, but because it's my WS's fucking favorite movie!!!

One person in our Book Club insisted that you could get a person to come out of their Alzheimers haze if someone did what James Garner's character did, read their life story to them every day


[This message edited by tara1110 at 8:24 PM, January 12th (Sunday)]


Me BS:34
H WS: 28
OW: 33 (butter face... Thanks to sistermilkshake for the nickname)
Dday: July 24, 2013 (5 days after our 5th wedding anniversary)
7yrs together, married for 5 yrs
Status: divorcing

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Jesu
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, that's why I wrote 'luuuuuurrrrrrv' instead of love
p.s. There have been a few threads about lurv vs love. Luuurrrrv being the infatuation, childish, immature, delusional fantasy the AP's engage in and believe they've found the proverbial romantic fantasy come-to-life.

Yeah, I know. Wasn't having a dig at you.


Me: BSO 39
Her: WSO 29
Together: 9 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
Many more DD after TT
PA#1: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA
R: ?

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Jesu
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The one that was very triggery for me lately was the Decendents with George Clooney. It made me cry. It is all about infidelity and the husband finding out from his teenage daughter and the WW is in a brain dead coma. It was very triggery for me and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone JFO. It did however go through all the steps that a BS goes through once they find out. When my husband seen me crying he did give me a hug and tell me once again he was so sorry.

OH YEAH...that was a tough one.


Me: BSO 39
Her: WSO 29
Together: 9 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
Many more DD after TT
PA#1: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA
R: ?

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ahhhh...you had me going there for a second Jesu.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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FightingBack
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, January 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

can you believe it? The Descendants was the first movie we saw together after dday. it was our first "date night" other than many dinners where we talked. h thought it would be nice to do something fun together. he picked the movie. I had no clue what it was about. Neither did he obviously. What a fun night that was!


Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 1:25 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And another one...

Irvine Welsh's Ecstasy

This one stars Kristin Kreuk. I was a fan of the tv show Smallville so I thought I would check it out but first I looked up the synopsis which read as follows:

Frustrated with her boring middle class and loveless marriage, Heather Thompson (Kristin Kreuk) seeks a change in her life. At a club, she finds just that in happily partying Lloyd Buist (Adam Sinclair), a drug addict. Heather falls hard for Lloyd despite the fact that most of their time spent together is under the influence of illicit substances. As they experiment with this new lifestyle, they are faced with the question of whether they love their drugs, each other, or are just drugged into loving each other.

Dang...even the synopsis of some of these movies aren't safe


xBH
D final 8/2012

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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 1:45 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yeah, The Freebie was triggery too. Especially because the two can't seem to agree where the line is.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
"Not my monkeys. Not my circus." ~Polish proverb (<~~~ as a codependent person, this comes in handy sometimes!)

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WearingTheHorns
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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, The Decendents was kind of tough to get through. We started watching it together on a "date night at home". Once it started dealing with the A, WW decided it wasn't a movie she wanted to watch. Ever since dday if a movie we're watching starts dealing with infidelity she doesn't want to watch it. I don't think it's because it's triggery for her, but is for me and I don't think she wants to deal with me getting that way. I finished watching it a few days later, and a day or so after that she did. I finally asked her if she had watched the rest of it and she had. I thought it was really good, but when George Clooney confronted the AP I wanted him to change his mind and punch him in the throat.


Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months

"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony


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MindMonkey
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm mixed on Descendents. I saw it before DDay.

We were living in Hawaii and planning on moving to the mainland last summer. I moved three months before my W and kids so they could finish the school year. This is when my W started her affair. She slept with the SOB three days before she moved.

My WW *was* the WW in the movie (except the coma). So that part is ugly.

But on the other hand, it was a mostly a story about the BH fixing himself and his family. No one can fix their WS, especially when they are in a coma. And I loved the scene where he confronted OM. Still wished he would have punched him in the throat.


BH, 35, CoD, Military...sober since 6/17/14
FWW, EA/PA (x2) different OM coworkers
Reconciling since 8/1/13
100% ready to file at next dealbreaker...don't test me.

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Uh, Wearing? This...
I don't think it's because it's triggery for her, but is for me and I don't think she wants to deal with me getting that way.
...seems to be very NOT good.

Came across a cheesy 80's movie on youtube...

A Night in Heaven

The movies is crap but there is a cool scene where the BH takes the OM out onto a lake, makes him strip down and leaves him out there in another little boat after making him fear for his life. They should have ended the movie right there because the shite ending totally erased that.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chaos Theory

I could write entirely too much about what is wrong with this movie.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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brokensoul75
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another Bradley Cooper movie... Silver Linings Playbook. Saw it after DDay during a "date night at home" and it was not good, trigger-wise.



You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you. ~Walt Disney

We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. ~Kenji Miyazawa


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