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User Topic: Triggery movies
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of the first movies I remember watching after D-Day was The Kids Are All Right.

Sometimes you just rent something without knowing anything about it, and it doesn't work out....

Generally I can separate my feelings about myself from my enjoyment of a good movie. I enjoyed Kids even while triggering, and I enjoy good dramas, even when infidelity is important to the plot. I hate that the BS is usually portrayed as some sort of fantasy, but I can handle that.

My W triggers badly on everything, though.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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WIgirl
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

UGH...Just saw American Hustle...and on date night! UGH, UGH, UGH. There should be a freaking affair safe rating on movies.

And one of the previews was for a new movie with Cameron Diaz called The OTHER WOMAN! About a wife who befriends the mistress! Seriously.


Me: 38 yo BW
Him: 40 yo WH
2 daughters (8, 5); married 15 yrs
DD: 6/2/13 (5 mo EA/PA with coworker)
Separated/Divorcing

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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

An Unmarried Woman
She Devil
The First Wives Club
Thelma & Louise - the horrible part was, because of the way the husband was acting, I thought it would be revealed he was cheating - and then she was the one who went and cheated on him! And then the OM taunted him.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 4:47 PM, February 16th (Sunday)]


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Supernova
The Dentist (thought I'd be watching a cheesy, turn-your-brain-off slasher flick...nope, the stinking movie practically begins with it)
The Prestige


xBH
D final 8/2012

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stillhere09
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Frequent Flyer is a movie about infidelity, but a good one. It may be hard for some to watch, but it does not glorify cheating. Just the opposite, in fact, and the end is very good, too.


Me-50 BW
Him-55,STBXWH

Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M


Posts: 3020 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Ohio
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Curious Case of Benjamin Button


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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BAMAC
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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That Awkward Moment.


DDays - 1/26/2013 | 3/23/14
Divorced 7/10/2014

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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know what's weird? I didn't even think about it while watching American Hustle. I mean, it's stated right at the outset that he's married and the Amy Adams character is 'his girlfriend', but for some reason that fact just went in one ear and out the other.


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**Guts over fear.**

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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, February 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

Gosh so many others… Thought of one earlier that's so common and forgot to write it here. Too many.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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william
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Default  Posted: 4:11 AM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

im one of those "tough guys" that actually loves "chick flicks". the more romantic and loving the better.

i thought bridges of madison county a good, sad film years ago when i saw it. i wouldnt watch it now if someone paid me too.

i used to love bridget jones diary. i saw her as a sort of "every woman". i watched it with my WW a week or so ago. i was okay with it up until her mom left her father to go with the guy on tv and it really, but really pissed me off when she came back and the father was like "oh, its so great to have you back and now i can take you out to dinner and dancing so you know how much i love you without any long term consequences to our marriage because you left me to go sleep with that guy for months and months."


me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Big Chill


xBH
D final 8/2012

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Up In The AIr


xBH
D final 8/2012

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hurtingfool
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Default  Posted: 4:13 AM, March 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Went to pop in The Rocky Horror Picture Show after DDay. Was one of my favorites. As soon as I put it in the tray all I thought was "Dammit Janet".


WW suggested we go see The Princess Bride as they were doing the classics on the silver screen series at the local cinema...

At first I was like, ROUS's on the big screen!?! Of course...

and yet another movie......at least WW is realizing how many triggers I have now...sigh......


Me: BS 31
Her: WS 29
10 years of marriage
12 years together
3 kids
DDay:January 16, 2014

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augustmarie
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Default  Posted: 3:06 AM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

True Detective.

I was watching that with my husband right after I found out. He doesn't know I know yet. It's sort of bittersweet to watch true detective with him while one of the main character's is banging a chick and cheating on his wife. Interesting to jab at it and make comments about it to my husband..


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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone else have trouble going out to see new things, be it movies or TV shows or plays, without reading spoilers first to make sure there's nothing triggery about them? Ruins a great many surprises, doesn't it?


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

American Hustle didn't bother me particularly. At least the husband was honest and begging for a divorce. Evidently before he ever cheated. What bothered me was the awful cheesy clothes and 70s music. Ugh.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is really stupid but I had a hard time with Muppets Most Wanted.

Kermit gets thrown in a Russian gulag and nobody except Animal notices anything for months. The evil frog just gives everyone what they want while he uses them to rob shit. When one of them finally asks if Kermit is acting weird they all just say nah and go along with their muppet bullshit.

Miss Piggy doesn't even notice the difference until they're getting married and she realizes it was all too easy. Obviously she wasn't intentionally cheating on anybody but it felt like a fucking social commentary. Then at the end there's the rescue and big speech about how they'll never take him for granted again, etc, but, fucking A. It's the muppets, it's not supposed to be triggery, it's supposed to be fucking stupid.

Sorry, back to grownup shit.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The wierd thing in my situation is that I can tolerate watching things about infidelity, though it does get me a little worked up...even cheaters the show.

But my FWS LOVES WATCHING THEM AND GETTING PISSED! HE gets mad at the cheater!!! Sheesh, makes no sense!




Posts: 270 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
norabird
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I even find this thread triggery!

Let's see...The Ice Storm. And it's a tv show, but Mad Men is forever off limits to me now.

I used to love movies and often watched multiple a week. Especially foreign and independent ones. Ever since this all started I don't enjoy them at all or want to go see them even. It's strange and sad. I hope it comes back. That was a pretty consistent part of my life.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 5:08 AM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sliding Doors

I bought this film as a Christmas Movie during the time WH was f*cking MOW. He sat and watched it with us all – the whole family. I don’t think I’ve ever got over that – how could he sit there and appear to enjoy this film when so much of it paralleled our life?

Gerry – Looks like fWH, also a writer and arrogant and weak and STUPID.
Helen – A bit like me, slim, fair, non-descript, quiet, supportive, faithful, NOT stupid.
Lydia – ex-gf, persistent, sexy, unpredictable, threatening, jealous, drives black Audi TT convertible (aarrghgggh!). Bitchface.

Best line for me: “You wanker. You sad, sad wanker.”


Also, Regarding Henry
Shattered (UK – Butterfly on a Wheel)
Intimacy


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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