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User Topic: 6 months (profanity)
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Six months into this shit. I guess it's a good thing that it took most of the day to realize it. I know my tag thing says 6/13 but it was 7/13. Fuck it. What's another month. I went to her work to pick up 2014 insurance cards. Not a huge deal. Then I went to lunch and did some shopping for myself. I reached out to a few friends. She texted me later what she was doing at work. You see, this idiot thinks we are buds. I couldn't help it, I wrote back, told her I was having a glass of wine and watching the rain. She remarked that I looked good, seemed different, happier and asked what other things I was planning and doing. The following is a direct quote of what I wrote her:

"I dealt with the burdens and pain of this journey you sent me on by myself. I think I'll keep the rewards for myself as well"


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 722 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
HobbesTheTiger
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sure others, more experienced, will be along soon to give better replies, but I just wanted to say I'm glad that you're moving on towards a happy/ier you without toxic people in your life!

I and I'm sure many others would be happy to read about all the rewards on your journey thus far, all the things you're looking forward to at this point, the things/people that make you feel better at this point etc. Of course, when you'll have time and will feel like writing about it, here or on any other thread.

Live long and prosper:)

[This message edited by HobbesTheTiger at 3:28 PM, January 13th (Monday)]


BxBf, 26
Lots of FOO&other issues, working it through therapy
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Posts: 143 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Continental Europe
Take2
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I for one love your response... Crickets is usually best - you just gave her an articulated cricket!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. Passively trying to pretend that things are fine so that she doesn't have to face what she's done. Yuck.

You sound like you're doing a great job of taking care of yourself. Good for you for getting out there and reaching out to your friends.

(((sl)))


If you can't learn to enjoy your life when you have problems, you may never enjoy it because we'll always have problems. - Joyce Meyer

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((sunsets))))) I'm glad you are keeping the rewards for yourself as well.

It gets better, hon. It already IS getting better. And you're the one making that happen. Carry on.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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ImEnoughForMe
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love your response.


Do the best you can do until you know better. Then when you know better, do better. - Maya Angelou

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pregnantandsad
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love the response


M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filing for D

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
neverwillhapn2me
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is a PHENOMENOL response, You should use it as your signature on SI.


The saddest thing about betrayal is it never comes from your enemies


If your searching for that one person that will change your life, look in the mirror.


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TheRealDeal
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome response.

hope you don't mind sunsetslost but I added it down in the F&G quote thread


Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Posts: 247 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Northeast
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Sunsetslost))) WTG! Hope for me....soon, soon!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a big fan of crickets but boy have there been some zingers here lately. If you're going to break NC that was a great way to do it.

At 6m out from DD I was a month into S and still on auto pilot. My response would not have been so articulate.

The opposite of love is indifference. You're getting there. It's OK to still feel hurt/angry about it.

Enjoy your rewards - there will be many more rewards to come.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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WastedTime12
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sunset, May I borrow this quote? Sums it up awesomely!! Please, pretty please.

Keep on moving forward.


Life is meant to be lived, not numbed!

In his quest for freedom, he set me free!


Posts: 92 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Dallas, TX
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Use it. Quote it. Own it. But please LIVE IT!!! Whatever your journey holds, please choose to grow.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 722 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
SusanR
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it!

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Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love it brother but crickets is what she deserves stay strong


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

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