Try to stay no contact with her so the two of you don't wind up getting back together again. I think your desire for space, alone time, peace, etc, is not compatible with her desire to start a real family of her own. From her point of view, if she is doing single mother adoption, then this is likely her last chance for a family. While I know you have suffered a tremendous loss, I don't understand how you can view her as selfish.
[This message edited by StillLivin at 5:50 PM, January 17th (Friday)]
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
Sending you peace and love and healing.
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
- if anything I feel like the selfish one.
I don't think you are being selfish for not wanting to adopt. I wouldn't either at this point. Be a step-mom? Sure, that I could do, but adopt?? Nope.
I've learned through this process that you can love someone, but sometimes the relationship just doesn't work.
Now you can take the time to properly grieve and just…rest.
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
I am too uncertain that I really want to adopt and I just don't think it is something that you can do with anything other than total conviction
Absolutely. I hoed the same tough row. Painful. Feel the hurt but keep your chin up.