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User Topic: Finally, something good happened
1bigidiot79
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought since I always come on here looking for advice when bad things are happening I would share something good that happened.

FYI, we are almost 6 months out now and my BS has made some progress, albeit very slow progress. It has definitely been a struggle. Still sleeping in the spare bedroom and not so much as a hug or kiss from her yet. No I love you said back or anything like that. We are basically just living in the same house.

I have tried really hard in the last couple of months to focus on her pain and not share the pain I am going through. The other night I was very emotional and couldn't resist telling her how much I missed her and that I was miserable without her.

She replied that she wouldn't want me to think that she doesn't care about me because she says she does. I told her I was so thankful and humbled that she still did to which she replied, I never stopped.

I laid there crying like a baby just reading it over and over again. I know we still have an enormous amount of ground to cover but that did my heart a lot of good to read those words.


DDay 7/23/13
TT on 3/5/14 - Finally came completely clean
Finally working on making real changes in my life, one day at a time.

Posts: 163 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: United States
Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad to here that big, it is a glimmer hope that there is still a chance. Keep doing the work and you will see the results In yourself and she will see them as well.

albeit very slow progress

Gently, who are you to judge the speed of her recovery??? Any progress is good no matter the time involved. In my mind this piece of your post was unnecessary.


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


Posts: 128 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Canada
HUFI-PUFI
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1bigidiot79 - I told her I was so thankful and humbled that she still did to which she replied, I never stopped.

This is what gives us hope on the bad days. This is what gives us strength when we falter. This is what we tried and failed to find with our APs. This grace from an angel. Real love found in our BS.

HUFI


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

Posts: 3228 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Azilda, Northern Ontario
1bigidiot79
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gently, who are you to judge the speed of her recovery??? Any progress is good no matter the time involved. In my mind this piece of your post was unnecessary.
No offense taken. I wasn't judging her but merely stating what I believe to be a fact. I didn't say I was upset about it and even said that I am humbled that she made the admission of still caring about me.

Obviously, I would love to see things progress at a faster pace but I in no way want to push that on her. She knows that I am here for her and will be for as long as it takes.


DDay 7/23/13
TT on 3/5/14 - Finally came completely clean
Finally working on making real changes in my life, one day at a time.

Posts: 163 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: United States
cdnmommy
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

:)


Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
1 great kid.
Reconciling and healing

Posts: 1732 | Registered: Nov 2010
1bigidiot79
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is what gives us hope on the bad days. This is what gives us strength when we falter. This is what we tried and failed to find with our APs. This grace from an angel. Real love found in our BS.
Thanks HUFI, you couldn't have said it better. She is an angel, my angel and I will never treat her otherwise again. Hope, such a small yet powerful word.


DDay 7/23/13
TT on 3/5/14 - Finally came completely clean
Finally working on making real changes in my life, one day at a time.

Posts: 163 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: United States
Stillkicking
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She knows that I am here for her and will be for as long as it takes.

That is key!!! Disregard my earlier post!!
Keep enjoying these little victories!


You'll never learn to fly
until your standing at the cliff

I reserve my right to feel uncomfortable reserve my right to be afraid.
I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way.


Posts: 128 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Canada
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy for you.

Thanks for sharing the good stuff.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

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Prayingforhope
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, January 14th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a wonderful post. Thanks for sharing as it gives me hope. Of course since I've been forced to move out of the house, you had me hopeful at JUST the mention of "the spare bedroom"....


WH 41
BS 40
D-Day Oct 28th, 2013
Together 18 years
Three amazing boys 12, 9 & 6
Praying for hope daily

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