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User Topic: Day 3 of knowing
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One thing that I've learned from the SI veterans is that the first confession is almost always the tip of the iceberg. That happened to me. Because I believed what he told me at the beginning that I thought that was "it". But the people here in SI, especially those who've BTDT were right in my case. There were more DDays after DDay1. The pain was excruciating after every new discovery. For a BS, it is mind boggling how far they would go to preserve themselves.(see my story in my profile if you want details)

I guess what I am saying is brace yourself for some more "truths" to come out. Heck I was getting some more "truths" as late as Dec 2013 and my Dday was Jan 2013.

Trust your gut -- it is amazing now spot on it is!

Sending strength and love your way.

It does get better. One year on, I still think about my WH's indiscretions, but I don't cry as much anymore.

Me-BW 46 yo;Him - WH 53 yo
Married 13years
One daughter together 9yo, 2 stepchildren(His from previous marriage)
Various DDdays (see my profile)
ONS and multiple "friendships" with women in various online dating sites

Posts: 131 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: New Zealand
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My pissed off time is 11:00 p.m. to 3 a.m. I thought I could trust too, keep snooping, and take a deep breath when you find more. I hope you don't, but please be prepared. I'm day 10, and much of what I found earlier on is just sinking in. I couldn't go "balls to the walls " with all of it in a confrontation, because I'd be blamed for a bad temper (which I do have now, and I'm damn cranky from lack of sleep and food). Do confront him, but don't give up how you found it. Save that and document it. Hang in there. I'd tell you to get plenty of rest like everyone else, but the reality is, you won't. So nap during the down times. And stay strong.

" He paved paradise and put up a parking lot"
BS - me
WS- him
married 26 years, together since kids
D- Day Jan 4 2014
PMA- starting this moment
R - in MC. WH is in IC

Posts: 142 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
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What?  Posted: 10:00 PM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have you read beautiful blog for us hurt ladies. Help me a ton after DDay#2

2 teenage kids
Calls OW a leech......I just wonder what he calls me..

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