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LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What the heck is going on?

My WW has been acting all nice and gushy with me lately? She called me last night and talked to me and said she loved me.

She told me where she was going today and then she was blowing kisses to me via facetime?

I have been detaching...I promise you that... not sure what is going on.

FEEDBACK..GO


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1029 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
Razor
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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Could be good. Or maybe not.

Dont buy into it. Accept it. Smile. But dont let this penetrate. Hold to the 180.


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Could be your detaching is leading to some Hoovering. ETA: bumped the Hoovering thread for you.

Keep on keeping on, Samurai.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 11:19 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)]


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am. Last nights IC was so great I came out thinking he has confirmed to do the 180. No need to let her behavior decide who I am. I decide who I am.

She has to do what is necessary to get better, and I am responsible for my own healing.

I don't reach out to her, I let her contact me. If she wants to talk to me, let her make the move.

Why should I do anything, when I didn't do anything wrong.

ETA: Read it and I am keeping my guard up.

[This message edited by LostSamurai at 11:48 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)]


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1029 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To me, that behavior is so maddening. I tell my ws, please pick a mood and stay with it for awhile. Either they want you or they don't...I.hate that mind game. Ignore than smother, be attentive, be distant..uggghh makes the head spin. Just stay on YOUR path LM. If its real, you will find out when your ready and she won't be bouncing back and forth. If she means it, she will be patient, if not, she will get irritated.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4728 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you. I appreciate it. I will stay the course.


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1029 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
HoneyMe
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone can be remorseful for a short time. Now is the time to be patient and watch. Your love should be very hard to get right now. My fwh did come to full remorse, but I watched him and his behavior a long time. Good luck, stay strong.


3 A's
Blinded-sided DD 9/2011
Again 11/2011 and then more truth the next day. Separated 4 months. 2012, the year of truth and reconciliation.

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