I have, to a degree. You can read my profile for the story if you want.
My situation was a little different, I knew about it when we married.
But there are still times that it cuts so deeply that I am not his last "first kiss" or last first sexual experience.
He has however, been an amazing husband and I try to focus on that part.
He married you and only you. Your counselor sounds unhelpful to blame you for it.