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User Topic: t/j of my t/j: My experience with Mr. Half
osxgirl
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow - I can kind of understand thinking you might be judging dates too harshly, and wanting to give a little more leeway, but when your weird meter goes off, don't second-guess yourself.

BTW, I can understand why he had to repeat the question himself about taking it to the next level instead of just taking the first no for an answer. You weren't speaking the same language.

Obviously, you should have answered by sticking your finger in your mouth, bending over and making gagging and retching noises and motions. (In the 80's known as the universal sign language for "gag me with a spoon".)


Posts: 2323 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Maryland
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is hilarious phmh definitely ranks up there with cheesy nut man. Now I'm kinda sad Sazzy didn't give him a few more dates, just to extend her story.

In all seriousness though, give a guy another chance if the things you aren't feeling are minor or shallow. If he reveals himself to be a wanker before you even meet, it's completely acceptable not to torture yourself for our amusement.


Posts: 3278 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh wow. I can understand why you would want to keep an open-mind, but he sounds like a real wanker.

I can't believe those hand gestures... that sounds like something out of an episode of Seinfeld.

I hope you're okay; it sounds like you won't have much trouble putting Mr. Half and his antics behind you!


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It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hereby nominate Mr. Half into the pantheon of SI NB legends

There's a special place for people like this???

Absolutely! There's the SI D/S Axis of Evil (think of all the X and STBX evildoers we've heard so much about - Fucktard, Stretch, the Dooosh, the Princess, etc.) and then there's the SI NB Legion of Losers - Cheesy Nut Man and Mr. Half being the founding members.

All rights reserved, of course.

ETA: I hit submit too soon.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 5:57 PM, January 17th (Friday)]


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you guys enjoyed it. I don't take OLD too seriously, so it didn't bum me out too much. I didn't have feelings for him and rarely think of him now except when I tell people.

He's only about 4th or 5th weird on my dating list, so his story doesn't come up that often. I'm heading out tonight shortly so don't have time to write another epic one (that I've seriously thought about turning into a short story and submitting somewhere.) But I will!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This guy sounds like the hair-shirt of dates, like you date someone like this for penance or something.

I laughed for five minutes on this.

only to get to this

He's only about 4th or 5th weird on my dating list,

oh, my. I will be waiting.


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely in line with cheesy nut man...yikes! WTF!!! phmh, my beautiful friend, you deserve SO MUCH BETTER!

Granted I'm in Texas, and we tend to feel that the guy generally pays, however, after I've been on a few dates, I will typically pay. Though, I am in the general mindset that the guy pays if he arranges the date (which is typical). However, if I arrange the date, I tend to do that by arranging movie dates where you pay ahead and I buy the tickets online, etc. Or I occasionally insist on paying, but not early on. (Is that bad?)


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"In return for showing you a nice time a guy has the benefit of having the company of a beautiful woman."

I’m probably reading too much into this, but as a guy who loves to show a woman a pleasant experience and a relaxing night out where she doesn’t have to worry about…well anything, I find this statement to be a little offensive. I don’t think this is how you meant it, but, IMO, the statement has a sense of entitlement, reduces the man to one dimensional, and devalues the man to the point where he should be grateful just to be in the mere presence of a beautiful woman.

Nomoreplease, you sound like a wonderful man who provides a great experience for the woman who dates you. I just meant that its really OK for a woman to relax and allow herself to enjoy that kind of date without feeling like she has to jump in and direct the date and go half in order to not 'take advantage' of the man. She can just be her beautiful self and that has a lot of value for the guy. Also women spend considerable time, effort, and money to do hair, nails, makeup and dress nice. After all that its not necessary to also pay half the bill, especially when invited out.


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crazynot
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Default  Posted: 2:28 AM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I loved this story and yes, I think it's worth giving someone a second chance but maybe not a third? Also, I think you have to listen to your heart and your body, which will both be telling you by date number 2 at the latest if there is the all-important chemistry. I had 2 experiences post-separation, one a week of dates - lots of attraction, good conversation but totally incompatible. And the second is still ongoing... and I knew after a month of phone calls and one date that this was going to be the relationship that absolutely rocked my world.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

phmh, Mr. Half, and InnerLight are now on the quote thread.
The hair-shirt of dates!

Dyin!!!!

Posts: 6432 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hereby nominate Mr. Half into the pantheon of SI NB legends. He can sit next to the Cheesy Nut Man.

I had this same thought half way through reading your post phmh


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thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cutting to the chase and all the half stuff (wrote studd at first - Freudian slip?) aside, was Mr. Half a decent enough guy?


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Between the me-me-me selfishness and grotesque rudeness I would say not.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double post

[This message edited by PurpleRose at 10:37 AM, January 20th (Monday)]


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sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well this thread has made my Sunday. I love your willingness to give a guy a second (and third, and fourth??) shot but girl, I hope you are going to listen to that inner voice from now on.

Im guessing he set up the whole "walking" to the restaurant just so he could ask to be driven home, thereby creating a sticky situation for you being in the car with him, and driving to his love-lair.

Ew. Just ew.


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If it had only been one date, it wouldn't have been anything to write about! And Cheesy Nut Man has a much better moniker!

I wrote out what I consider to be the weirdest date I've had in this thread: http://survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=520013

Is it strange that revisiting these stories is making me want to activate my OLD profile again?

ETA: wrong link

[This message edited by phmh at 2:14 PM, January 19th (Sunday)]


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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