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spectacularsoul
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is leaving me. He won't budge. He says this is goodbye.

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shiloe
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Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Then by all means, let him go. He has made his choice. No more cake, shut the bakery.

Protect yourself and your children.

NC him . . . only about kids and finances.

Do you have a family member you can talk to and support you?


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Then he will be anybody else's problem but yours.

Look after yourself first and foremost from now on.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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RealityStinks
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

spectacularsoul -
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. Look after you and your kids. It's his loss and not your fault.

Hang in there.


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Newme123
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry you are here. I know you said in an earlier post you have children. I don't understand how some people can be so selfish. The others are right. Good riddance! You are better off without his dead weight around your neck.


Me-BS 33, him-WH 31
Dday 10-30-12 the day before Halloween
Married 10 yrs
DS-14, DD-9, DS-2, DD-5m
Currently trying to R

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Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Start seeing lawyers so you can protect you and your children's interests. He may be done but you need to curtail his ability to spend marital funds on his new single lifestyle. Walking away from a marriage is one thing but walking away from five children should be difficult and expensive. Don't let him make things more difficult for your children than he already has.


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


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Girlietoo
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, I know how very much you wanted to reconcile. ((Hugs)).

What a selfish ass >.<


Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died

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Uhtred
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really sorry to hear this for you. I know your world is crashing down around you right now. Stay as strong as you can and fight the good fight. Protect yourself and your interest. Don't get robbed blind by this fool of a man that has his head shoved so far in his ass that he can't see the light of day. Karma is a bitch.


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 599 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
Howie
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have followed you from your first post. I,and others, are very sorry to hear this news. Your requests of him were only fair.Now you know.Honest, there was not much for him to do.
This must seem the blackest time.To be betrayed and then abandoned.(This was not my case, we clawed our way,over many months, back into a real relation.)
But your new life begins now, a hard birthing but one without the ambiguity that plagues so many in twilights of confused intentions.
Your writing, even in this time of extreme debility, conveys intelligence and inner resources. You can make the hard next steps.Be firm, don't despair, don't be bullied, see a lawyer ASAP.
Nothing (except the death of a child) is worst than a life of lies and deceit. Now you are beyond that.
You better life is there, ahead.
Our prayers for you.

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