No news is good news, right?
He finally let slip the real reason he is coming, and as many guessed it is not for his daughter.
His drivers license is expiring and he needs to continue to use one of my addresses to renew. Of course he did not ask, just mentioned his DL was expiring. I believe he assumes I will continue to let him use that addy.
Explains why he has being creepy nice nice.
What a load off my back after figuring out where his slime trail was leading.
After some thought I figured I would take advantage of his seeming benevolence ..
Since my daughters passport is expired I did research on what needed to be done to renew without him present. Sent the paperwork to him which he had to fill out and have notarized.
Only took him three weeks. Which is an improvement over never..
Getting a passport makes it just that much harder for him to try to smuggle her out since he can not get one legally, now.
Also, perhaps DD and I can take a cruise.
We live close to a port so they are pretty darn cheap here. I do not care what anyone tells you, you need a passport for most of the big ship cruises. Even the ones that appear to just go to US destinations. As a single parent you also need a permission letter from the other parent.
Sounds pretty simple, right? A letter saying I can take DD where ever..or so I though..no such luck. The letter needs to have dates, flight number, addresses where I can be reached and even..passport numbers. Passport numbers? Oh hell no..That would make it just so much easier for him to forge documents. Also to get all this info I would already have to book everything and await his majesties pleasure on weather he would grant me the letter. No letter = no go and lose all money.
Yeah with his track record ..yeah..that's a tall glass of nope.
After looking around I was able to find what looks to be a fantastic cruise on a smaller ship in Alaska. No passport or permission letter needed. Woot! And its a family friendly cruise! Going to take DD to see humpback whales! She is beside herself with excitement.
I get to the passport office and found out he forgot to include half the documents and had multiple cross-outs. Looks like he tried to fill out another name, thought better of it, and then wrote his? WTF? Then again when dealing with him I should just expect overflowing wtf..great rivers of it..
He finally called the other day after nearly another month of no contact. He said he would send the needed documents for the passport ASAP ( ) DD told him immediately about the cruise. I expected him to immediately ask when we were going so he could plan his trip over accordingly. Well that's what a normal person would do right? Well he did not ask dates, month, ship, or destination. He just asked how much I was paying for DDs after school activities, then proceeded to chew me out since I was paying too much..wtf?
Getting chewed out was amusing, of course I didn't react. Was actually smiling since, I am no longer married to this never ending source of malicious crazy. It was also a good sign since if he actually had plans to come over he would have asked for the dates I was gone ..right? Perhpas he will just fly in for a few days and get the DL renewed and we will happen to be away..far away
I really want to thank everyone again for all the support you gave me in this thread. I was totally beside myself in fear. His threats turned out to be a good thing. Without them I would not have come here and made this post and received so many words of wisdom, which gave me a great sense of empowerment.
Will come and post updates as they present themselves..but for right now..no news is pretty damn good news