I have just noticed in my signature line that D day was 4 years ago today.
It seems like a LONG time ago now but the memories of those early days are still very clear in my mind.
I was lucky to stumble across Surviving Infidelity in that very first week, and that was the beginning of my journey to healing.
So many of you here In Just Found Out are in terrible pain. Devastated and lost are words we see here again and again.
Please hang in there... Wonderful happy times lie ahead of you. It will not be an easy route - reconciliation is for the brave and committed, divorce is very tough too... But it will be ok. It truly will. It just takes TIME.
Life will improve, you will heal, you will rise from this awful time
Of your life like a Phoenix from the ashes.
You will become a stronger and happier version of yourself.
You will survive.
It will take some of you longer than others to arise from the ashes but you will all get there.
Stay here... Learn from the old timers, reach out to the newbies and believe in a better life. It will come.
4 years on I am divorced from my untreated bi polar emotionally and abusive ex. Good riddance!!!!!!
I am very happily in love with the kindest more gentle and respectful guy I could ever hope to meet. He treats me in a way I hoped for in my marriage and never received.
In a few days time we will celebrate a year together.
4 years on I am so happy that my life was changed by infidelity. The life I have now is sincere, calm, fulfilling, full of laughter, happiness and love.
Hang on guys life will get better.... It may not be the life you expected or planned but It will be wonderful.
Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”