It took this long for him to actually start working on himself. I kicked him out of the home we purchased together. He then hit rock bottom and now is seeking IC.
He still contacts me w hopes of getting back together.
This is my second relationship after my first marriage went south. As my XH cheated do I divorced. I do have a 6 yo dd from first marriage.
Now I'm just a hot mess because he wants to get back together and I do still love him. He was very good to me and treated my dd like his own. It's sad that it took him over a year to seek help. I think that is bc he figured he stopped it months before we started our new chapter in life of purchasing a home together.
Any thoughts and this? Has marriages w an ex SA ever work out? Is it worth the risk?
My husband had not yet escalated into random hookups, posting online for sex, and same sex encounters, or random ons or prostitutes.
He had 4 affairs, porn addiction and compulsive masturbation.
I would not have reconciled had he escalated further or if he had refused to seek help. It can be done, but it's hard, very hard.
If I were you? No way would I try.
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His reason was bullshit. A man doesn't send penis pics..and request and receive penis pics from men..for TWO years..unless they have some kind of interest in men.
Until he is ready to be honest with himself..and you..NO..you can not R with a wayward who is in denial about his sexuality.
This man did NOT treat you and your DD like gold. He cheated on you nearly the entire relationship. The man you thought he was is not the man he is.
You need to start the 180. For yourself. You need to focus on the good things in your life. Block him from contacting you. There are plenty of men in the world who are not into other men. You do not want to be me..together for 15 years, with two kids, and you wake up one day and find out your WH has been offering BJ's on CL. You don't want the mindfuck that goes with this bullshit. I am an attractive, kind, sexy woman. I have had moment where I HATE my body..because I don't have a fucking penis! That is some bullshit right there. FWH is honest with me..and remorseful..and in IC..and took a poly(and passed)...and loves me from the top of my head to the tips of my toes..and God help me, I love this man...but that doesn't mean that every.single.day is a struggle. You do not want this life.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.