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User Topic: Oh my goodness!
happierdays
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been feeling off for a couple of weeks and finally figured out it's because I'm pregnant! I still can't believe it and I'm also still not entirely sure how I feel about it, though vulnerable comes to mind. I never thought we'd be here again and I'm a bit scared (and 39!)


Me - 40
WH - 41
Dday - Oct 7, 2012
Dday 2 - June 4, 2013
Married - 7 years
1 DD

Posts: 145 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice to hear some good news!
Congratulations! (And your feelings are totally normal!)


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1887 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
SoVerySadNow
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Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Normal feelings for sure.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Slayer
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! That is exciting news. Good luck to you and your pregnancy

Posts: 20 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: USA
happierdays
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you! I'm still having mixed feelings, our DD is 8, so there will be quite an age gap and I've been struggling with feelings of insecurity, but will get there.


Me - 40
WH - 41
Dday - Oct 7, 2012
Dday 2 - June 4, 2013
Married - 7 years
1 DD

Posts: 145 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!

Babies are just pure joy.

Ohhhh and their smell mmmmm.

I always wanted another one. It is such a great time.

Enjoy!!


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3793 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome to the "elderly multigravida" club. Yeah, I was shocked when I overheard my OB dictating notes about me after our first visit. And, yes you are a member of the club. Congratulations!

My two older children were 16 and 10 when I found myself pregnant at age 40. I will tell you having a child later in life is such a different experience. I was so much more relaxed and we didn't "sweat the small stuff". It really helped that he was the most perfect and best baby , evah!

Its an adventure, hope on board and enjoy! (I finally did, after I went to therapy!)


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9543 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
AndreaL
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!! Have you told your husband yet?


Me:35
Hubby:38
Kids ages: 2 and 5
Married: 8 years
DDAY: Dec 1 2013
Affair: 2 months EA and PA
Status: Separted. Sigh...I wish I could forgive 😞

Update: attempting to reconcile


Posts: 187 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Canada
SadFlower
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! A new little life--what could be better?

And don't worry about your age! You'll be fine. My mom had me when she was 42 and Dad was 50; my sisters were 14 and 18. Mother always said the same thing as SisterMilkshake, that she was so much more relaxed with me than my sisters. And they were great parents.

My sisters and I have always been close, and I'm sure your son and the new baby will be too--8 years is not such a terrible gap.


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


Posts: 390 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
happierdays
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for so many votes of confidence! It warms my heart to read your stories.


Me - 40
WH - 41
Dday - Oct 7, 2012
Dday 2 - June 4, 2013
Married - 7 years
1 DD

Posts: 145 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada
LA44
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! I had my second at the same age. He is our wild one.

Patience might be thin but wisdom rules!

All the best to you.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2228 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!! Babies are little gifts of joy from heaven!

(((((happierdays and baby on the way)))))


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown


Posts: 1138 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
0115
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had my little surprise at 42. My other children were 21, 17, 16, and 14 (quite a gap).

He is now a proud Uncle to my oldest sons daughter and he is a constant joy in our lives! He helps me see the beauty in the little things all over again.

Good luck and all those emotions are normal. I remember crying when I went to Babies R Us because there were too many car seat and I was so confused! When you hold that little one it will all feel right!


BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.

Posts: 1004 | Registered: Apr 2011
deena04
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!! Babies bring out the best in our hearts. Enjoy and take care!! So, so happy for you!!


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

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