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User Topic: Was the AP clueless? Is WH?
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm just wondering if OW is clueless. As in, she thinks that WH is going to offer her the lifestyle he has NOW, while we are still married/living together and he isn't having to pay child support and spousal support. I think WH is clueless.

Was your WS and their AP clueless about this scenario? When did reality hit?

[This message edited by nekorb at 8:32 PM, January 20th (Monday)]


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think my WW thought much about such realities. Her eyes and her OM's eyes were opened when she was served with a D petition.


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WarpSpeed
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, they're clueless and out of touch with reality.

Mine moved out, divorced me and moved five states away before reality hit and she woke up.

hang in there


Me: BS (51)
Her: fWW (50)
Married 27 years
Two sons in college
Empty closet and note on bed Jan 2010, She filed for D Mar 2010, D final May 2010, Actually had D-Day and found out why it all happened July 2010. Remarried on 23rd Anniv Aug 2010

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crazynot
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Default  Posted: 12:20 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband's girlfriend only cared about getting him - the mundane realities of life never came into it and still don't. The separation ruined our joint finances, because we simply had never planned or even imagined that our marriage would end. We were already in debt, but planned to start properly paying it down once both kids were at uni. We prioritised family holidays and so on... and when we split, the money just wasn't there. But finances were never in their calculations, and would never have stopped their relationship.


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Him - 51
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Cally60
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Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder whether perhaps the financial aspect becomes more obvious as people move closer toward retirement? I think my WH realized that a divorce would cost him money. He started buying lottery tickets, in the hope of being able to give me enough to live on and enjoy a new life with the woman he desired. Just more evidence of the fog he was in, I guess!

[This message edited by Cally60 at 1:17 AM, January 21st (Tuesday)]


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marionwendy
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH was clueless. The OW was a MOW who lived in a small town with no life! MOW had two teenage kids and a husband who suffered from MS. She told my H that they lived in the same house separately, and that all she was to her BH was a caretaker! Bullshit. She would never take phone calls only texted and then when they had their ONS she asked him to drop her off at the corner of her street? Hello? She was lying! her Husband had no clue what this woman was doing or trying to achieve. Once I found out and the walls all came down he told me she had texted him telling him what kind of man she needed in her life! He said he texted her back told her he was not that guy and she needed to move on. He threw her under the bus! Nice guy! Nice lady! both clueless cheaters.


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Children-2

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