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User Topic: My babies graves
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Ellejay)))

Reading this made me feel physically sick. What a senseless, thoughtless act. How dare he!!!

I am so sorry. I wish she'd been struck by lightning for standing there.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5777 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have to agree, what a stupid idiot! How the hell could he think that your sacred place would mean anything to skank??

I am truly sorry for your loss. Those babies are looking down, from above, and know who they love, and loves them. No doubt about it.

(((ellejay)))


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1278 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Ellejay
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to say something to him without becoming hysterical. I need to be calm as he will not hear it otherwise. Just not sure how to put it in words so he will understand how that made me feel and how he should NEVER take her there again no matter what.


Married 25 years now divorced.
D-Day: 20/11/10
Me: 48.5 plus 10% GST
Him: mental age 6 (apologies to all 6 year olds)
Betrayal: Who cares anymore?

Posts: 1094 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Adelaide, South Australia
Skan
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How about, if you ever take your whore to MY angel babies grave again, I will pull your balls out through your throat and feed them, with you still attached, to the nearest fleabitten cat!

I'll hold the SOB for you!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4727 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Ellejay
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Skan - that's a wonderful image, thank you

I almost rang OW2 today I had worked myself up into such a state about this but I've decided to sleep on it for another day at least. My son's wedding is this coming Sunday so I am trying to maintain some sort of dignity until then.

Ellejay


Married 25 years now divorced.
D-Day: 20/11/10
Me: 48.5 plus 10% GST
Him: mental age 6 (apologies to all 6 year olds)
Betrayal: Who cares anymore?

Posts: 1094 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Adelaide, South Australia
Dare2Trust
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.
(((((hugs)))))))


Me BS 59
WH 58
Married 19 years
D-Day Nov 3, 2005
Child: Adopted Daughter 21 College Student now

I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.


Posts: 6114 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
JellyGirl84
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so angry for you. That is disgusting. Just know this: neither the OW nor your horrible XWH can ever get into the space in your heart nor the parts of your memory where your babies stay. THAT is sacred, too and can only be visited by YOU.

God sees all, he saw that and you've been heard.


Me: BS 30
WH: 30
No kids
Divorced in June 2014
Together 10 yrs, Married for 3 of those yrs
OP: Ho worker
Divorced

Posts: 148 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Nj
why2008
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry you lost your twins late in term. I can't even imagine the pain you are going through right now.

While I fully appreciate how desecrated you feel with the skank there, please try to focus on the fact that he brought your children to the graves of their siblings and that is really what is important.

I'd be just as upset as you are, but often we give OW too much importance after they have destroyed our lives.

Your twins in heaven and your children on earth are all that are important.


Me - BS - 46
Him - WS - 44
Two daughters / 10 and 7

Posts: 4074 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Maryland / DC
Ellejay
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Default  Posted: 12:22 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why2008

Yes you are right, I am giving OW2 far too much headspace. Also, now that I have had a couple of days to mull it over, I think it is important that she sees the history we have between us and that fact that he still grieves the babies he would have had with me. I just don't think he should have taken her there and his inability to think beyond the immediate just drives me nuts. I just wish I didn't have to deal with him at all.

EJ


Married 25 years now divorced.
D-Day: 20/11/10
Me: 48.5 plus 10% GST
Him: mental age 6 (apologies to all 6 year olds)
Betrayal: Who cares anymore?

Posts: 1094 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Adelaide, South Australia
why2008
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Default  Posted: 6:38 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it is important that she sees the history we have between us
This is why you can't give her headspace, if YOU were in her place in a similar situation with someone you were dating. that is what YOU would think... what does she think, who knows and who cares, if she had a brain she would not be an OW.

and that fact that he still grieves the babies he would have had with me.

I think that is what is so painful for you, this grief that you share over such a painful time in your lives.... to have someone distasteful invade that space.

One of my oldest friends lost twins late term over 20 years ago, we still talk about them and my thoughts are going to be with you today.


Me - BS - 46
Him - WS - 44
Two daughters / 10 and 7

Posts: 4074 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Maryland / DC
Raven96
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Ellejay)))

I am so sorry that your XWH took OW2 where she doesn't belong. I have no words that can take away that pain. I just hope she realized that there is a part of XWH that she will NEVER have...his past with his precious children and what was his precious family before she and OW1 destroyed it. That belongs to you and only you, and it is not dirty, ugly and tainted like their life together is!

I'm probably not saying this as clearly as I'm trying to, but know that I am sending lots of hugs your way and keeping you and your beautiful twins in my thoughts.

I'm so sorry he added unnecessary pain to an already difficult time for you.


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

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Raven96
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry...double post.

[This message edited by Raven96 at 8:18 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

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