My WB and I were in the process of trying to R. As of yesterday and specifically today, WB and I had been conversing about our next steps. It came out that he felt he needed time to "change" and get "himself together".
He is not seeing OW nor is he seeing anyone else, but feels he wants to really know why he did what he did, and has a lot of questions concerning his behavior that he wants to get answers to. He wants to seek counseling and just spend some time alone in order to build himself internally.
I asked him what this meant for us, and he assured me he wants to be with me, but stated that he didnt want to be selfish and request I wait for him, because he feels he doesnt deserve it. He told me to go on with my life, and that he would contact me when he was ready to move forward.
Though he's taking space for seemingly a legitimate reason, I cant help but feel like he's abandoned me all over again.
Anyone else experience this? How do you move forward during this period without expectations of an R, yet still hoping for one?