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User Topic: Think I am going to miscarry
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I guess the good thing is that I seem to have broken my pain seal and I'm not numb anymore.

The bad thing is that I'm a mess at work and I sobbed all the way here because I couldn't find my car keys (had to take DH's). Thank God I have a counseling appointment in an hour.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6663 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana)))


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((Jana))))))))))
You are probably also having a pretty powerful hormone dip right now which will really add to the pain and sad feelings. Sending you love and strength.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry Jana.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3401 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, and I called my husband because I miss him and I haven't really gotten to talk to him in a while, and apparently he was on a work call and accidentally switched over when I called, so I fucked up his work call unintentionally and caused him to hang up on a customer. Just absolutely firing on all cylinders today, all the way around. Fuck fuck fuck.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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landabear
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Take a sick day and go home after the counseling. It's what sick days are there for.

I took a week off after my first miscarriage. The second I was in a training class all week so couldn't miss work, but I didn't even pretend to do anything else that week. My husband had to do all of it, from sun up to sun down, kids, house and all.

You are going to grieve any way you slice it - so be kind to yourself while you are going through the worst of it. It's what you deserve.


BS
Divorced: March 2006
Married to a wonderful, FAITHFUL man: October 2009

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Jana)))))


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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DS - 31 - Yikes!


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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jana? You didn't fuck anything up. He did. And it was a phone.call. Easily remedied and no big deal. Breath in. Breath out. I'm sorry it hurts.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((Jana)))))) Oh, honey. Is there any way you can go home after your appointment?


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Ellejay
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana)))

I have been there and feel your pain. There are no words to make it better. Allow yourself to feel the grief and take time to rest.

Thinking of you.

EJ


Married 25 years now divorced.
D-Day: 20/11/10
Me: 48.5 plus 10% GST
Him: mental age 6 (apologies to all 6 year olds)
Betrayal: Who cares anymore?

Posts: 1094 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Adelaide, South Australia
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana))


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm feeling muuuuuuch better now. Even though I left my driver's license, credit card, and insurance card at the counselor's office and had to go all the way back from work to get them. LOL. It's just that kind of day. DH found my keys though. Apparently I had thrown them on the bed when I got home last night. First order of business when we move is to hang a key hook thing by the front door because we BOTH are notorious key losers.

I talked to DH, I felt so bad that I caused him to hang up on the customer, but he told me it was no big deal and was so nice about it. And it was a big job and he booked it, so that is nice too.

I remember why I loved my IC so much, it was great to talk to him. He's good. He said that I need to figure out a way to mourn this loss. My other loss felt so much more real, I was a month further along, I had two rounds of ultrasound pictures where we saw the heartbeat. I have a surreal feeling about this pregnancy, like I made it up. I didn't wrap my head around it before I lost it. So I need to figure out a way to mourn it. Do you guys have any ideas? I thought about planting two trees, one for each angel. I would worry about having to leave them if we move though.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like the idea of the trees, although I can understand the concern about having to leave them if you move. I have a friend lost her daughter in a car accident about 10 years ago. She planted a tree for her, but then ended up moving out of state a few years later. She planted the same variety of tree at her new home, since the original tree was too established to move.

A former coworker of mine lost two babies (one stillborn, one miscarried). She had garden stones that represented them. One had a butterfly engraved in it, the other a cardinal.

I'm sure you'll find the right memorial for your angel babies. ((((hugs))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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LA44
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Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Jana, I am so sorry. I just saw this now. A friend of mine has miscarried twice now - they put a nice bench in their background garden. The bench is inscribed with the childrens' names. That way if they move, the bench goes with them.

((Jana's heart))


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Jana))
I do certain activities each year in memory of a lost loved one. It is not as tangible, but it helps me to know I am helping others in their memory.

Maybe a charm for you to add to a bracelet or necklace?. Sort of a touchstone that is a remembrance?


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After my first miscarriage last year, I started running and getting in shape. My SIL who had 4 miscarriages before her 3 kids helps organize a 5K for The March of Dimes. I ran that last year in honor of my angel. Right before I found out I was pregnant in December someone posted in Off Topic about something they do to remember their baby and it got me thinking. I decided to learn how to crochet for real instead of my half assed way and donate hats, blankets, etc to the NICU. When I miscarried in January it really got me motivated and I have a bag of things I've made so far. I will probably stick with doing this because I hate running!


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Project Linus is one of my activities TCD


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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