No contact is HUGE!!! If you don't have kids, it is the best thing ever to heal!
Totally agree, mof2. My children are adults with their own families. The only contact I have had with xpos in almost two years is seeing him in court. (He has sued me twice since D asking the judge to force me to give him money.) Well, that and seeing him drive past and stop at the end of my driveway. What that is about is still a mystery to me, except that he is a pos and can't seem to let it all go. Still blames me for everything.
ETA: NC has been the best thing for my healing.
Oh, I forgot that he also sends me mail periodically. I guess just so I don't totally forget him.