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Default  Posted: 1:28 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd copy it and send it to him. But I wouldn't ask him to come. It's up to him to decide that.

Because in his head if you text him:

Tesla wants me there. So I shouldn't go. But I could show her up. I could show that school that she's the idiot. But that school are nasty to me. I shouldn't go. I hate that school. I should go, I'll show them. But Tesla wants me there.I shouldn't go. But I can make her play happy families. I should go. But then I'll have to spend time with the other families. I shouldn't go. But then I an show them how I'm friends with Tesla & that'll make me look good. I should go. But....

And so on.

If you just send it (like a flyer):

Huh, what's this? Ah,can't be bothered. Need to make 'er indoors' pick up dog poop.

Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
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Default  Posted: 3:24 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As a parent who sits thru band concerts with XWH and OW in the crowd, it totally sucks. It actually HURTS me so badly, however, when POS does not show up to functions, because I know my child hurts.

You are a quality person and can do this.

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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Default  Posted: 3:50 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't even imagine. However, you've shown what a great mom you are. So .... even though it sucks .... it's for the boy.

And I'm sure if he does show, it'll make for the most hi-fucking-larious post yet.


And, from the view of the childless spinster, he sounds like such an awesome little dude. This being that he is comfortable enough to tell you this sort of thing. (((Teslet)))

Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
Everything is as it should be.

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Default  Posted: 5:03 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is shit but you can do this Tesla - for teslet.

I have had to sit through school functions with WXW and OM in the room (OM's kids are at the school too - his DD in my DS's class!). Every time OM sits away from WXW and keeps his head low in shame. Remember - it is always worse for them - our discomfort is nothing to their shame. Head high.


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Default  Posted: 5:53 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate this too. But it's the right thing to do for Teslet, it also shows Teslet what a great mom you are.

I let my ex know by email that way he can't say I didn't tell him. There is a chain of evidence because every 5 minutes he's threatening to take me to court for some imaginary thing I have 'done to him'. I also ask him to let me know by x date if he is attending.

He never attends anything, he never replies either to these emails. Kids complain to me that he never turns up I tell them they have to talk to their dad about it. They complain to him and he will ignores them, lies to them, blame me, or whines that the OWifestress can't attend (kids don't want her there) or finds some injustice to blame it on.

At the end of the day the kids know who is in their corner.

"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you tesla! The possibility of being around them sucks but make sure you look unintentionally hot

Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Free iPhone/smartphone app: TurboScan

The only thing I use my physical scanner for anymore is photographs.

Download it, email the sucker which you can do straight from the app and don't say a word. He can read.


[This message edited by debbysbaby at 10:15 AM, January 23rd (Thursday)]

-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If Teslet wants his mother and his father there, then stripperwhore has no business going. She is not his parent.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wouldn't go. Period.
There are some things that children benefit from learning. One of them is that sometimes you can't have everything your way.
STBX's X....yeah, made a funny and didn't realize, was awful to us. Both boys wanted both parents at EVERYTHING.
Now I did make an exception for big events, like graduations.
That was it. The few WH and I compromised, every time she never failed to disappoint. As soon as she would start saying nasty crap, I would pretend like she wasn't in the room and would look right through her. She got WH every time, though. He couldn't resist going tit for tat with her.
I sincerely hope that if you do go, that neither of them "misbehaves" in front of adorable little teslet.
Best of luck.

I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My advice is to scan and send him the info. Or take a pic of the flyer and send it to him. That way, if he ignores it, it's on him. I send STBX info all the time, I stopped telling him because he wouldn't show and then tell people I didn't tell him anything...

And I agree, look amazingly hot...

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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You did the right thing doing what Teslet asked. It will be hard if they show, but you can handle it.

I hope he doesn't tell Teslet he's coming any not show.



I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told him that he needed to respond by today since the rsvp is due tomorrow. No response.

Thanks for the app suggestion, debbysbaby. Downloading and using that from now on.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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