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User Topic: My sister jfo
Lostinthismess
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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My older sister just found out her husband has been cheating for years with multiple ow. One of the ow sent her a message telling her to tell her husband to leave her alone. She didn't know he was married. She outed all his secrets. I'm heartbroken for her. I'm reliving dday. My little sister sent me a message saying my husband was their last hope that decent guys do exist my older sister knows of my husbands affair my little sister doesn't. I don't know how or if I will be able to keep it a secret any longer and that stresses me out too. Why? Why her too?? Ugg


'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

Posts: 331 | Registered: May 2013
SoVeryTired5
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I am so sorry for you and your sister. My sister is one of two people who know the truth about my WH. I can't even begin to imagine her feeling this kind of pain along with me.

I'm thinking about the two of you tonight.

((Lostinthismess))


Me: BS
Him: WH (iAmAMess0809)
Together: 7 years, married 5
Two children: 4yo, 1yo
DDay 4/30/13 EA, TT
Full disclosure of EA/PA 10/11/13

Posts: 67 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry to hear this.

(((Lostinthismess and sister)))


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry. I can well imagine that you're a mass of conflicting emotions. (((hugs))) I hope that your sister can find her way here for support.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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Lostinthismess
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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all. It just sucks. That's as eloquent as I can be.


'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

Posts: 331 | Registered: May 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Lost and sister))))

I am going through this as well, honey. I have to keep reminding myself that she is not me. Her reactions and decisions may be very different than mine. And that's ok.

The harder aspect for me is her H. I have so much anger towards him right now, and I'm fairly confident some of that is transfer from my own experience. Just as she is not me, her H is not wasband. That one requires a whole lot of mindfulness for me.

Sending you strength and comfort, honey. And keeping your sister in my thoughts.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Lostinthismess
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks NIK, I'm glad I can help her but it sucks I can help her too. Our stories are playing out very different, it's been easy to separate my own feelings so far.


'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

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