I don't know everything at all, but what I do know is that sleeping in the same bed will not work at all. Not for any man. Mentally healthy or broken men. It just makes for continued confusion. Even if he was 100 yrs. old!!
I'd say that is one frontrunner of a reason your ws is saying or behaving the way he is. Not to forgive him, but it could help clear his (yours and his) brain some to help think straight if you each have different space. Even different rooms is important.
IMHO. Regardless, you're strong!
[This message edited by Thinkingtoomuch at 10:36 AM, January 24th (Friday)]
Is a crazy generalization. Men do not corner the market on screwing around, hurting people and communication issues
You know, men arent suppsed to cry...we tell our son's to man-up (whatever that means) but if our daughter cries over the same thing we let her.
Just an observation, the orginal part came from a man.
[This message edited by NikkiD at 10:48 AM, January 24th (Friday)]
But, gently, you're sending him mixed messages, IMO. Telling him to get out, that he'll never touch you again, and then letting him sleep in the same bed??? That would tell me that you don't really want me to leave.
If you tell him to leave, then you need to Hefty his crap if he won't, throw it in the front yard, and kick him out. Letting him say when he'll leave is NOT how this is supposed to work.
I'm NOT taking up for him at all, but you are not "drawing your line in the sand" and sticking to it.
Hang in there. I know it sucks to be at this point. But, it's the best thing I've done so far in dealing with this.