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User Topic: Anyone familiar with Tricare?
MindMonkey
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I assume there are a few SI folks that are military families and I need help.

fWW needs to work on her "why". I'm actually quite concerned that her A's were only symptoms of her absolute hatred of herself. She beats herself up over everything and often times I feel the better our R is going the worse she feels about herself...essentially facing how good our marriage is when she tried to destroy it twice with impudence. I know she's had suicidal ideations as well.

The problem is that I think she needs serious help, but Tricare Prime doesn't really cover IC. They'll let her talk to someone one a month and get meds, but that's about it. Has anyone found away around this? My military service (17 years)contributed to her state but the government provided medical care isn't cutting it.

IDK, maybe I should just suck it up and pay out of pocket. I just have this fear that she'll never actually get better and I don't think I can live forever with someone who hates herself and can't (won't) be happy with a good life.


BH, 35
FWW, repeat offender
Reconciling since 8/1/13

Posts: 59 | Registered: Dec 2013
cardnial
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, I have tricare. You can get a list of counselers by calling tricare. I went by myself for IC and then my H and I went to marraige counseling. You are allowed 8 visits and then the counselor can ask for more if he deems you need more. I paid 15.00 per visit. Good luck, it did help us a lot because it was a safe place to just get it all out .

Posts: 55 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: pennsylvania
suchislife01
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IDK, maybe I should just suck it up and pay out of pocket. I just have this fear that she'll never actually get better and I don't think I can live forever with someone who hates herself and can't (won't) be happy with a good life.

MM,

Self acceptance can be a very difficult thing to those not equipped or with the resources available to help themselves.

I am an advocate of writing things down and then analyzing them to find the best course of action.

What do you expect our of your relationship with her?

Do you see yourself growing old with her at your side?

Are you willing give her time and space to heal, if that is in effect what she is willing to do?

In the other hand, why is she with you?

Are you her meal ticket?

Do you think she finds you attractive?

Do you think she finds you desirable?

Do you think she loves you for who you are or do you think she loves you for whatyou are?

Did you seduce her mind to be in love with you?

Have you taken care of yourself to keep her interested in you?

Have you been there for her when she has felt lonely?

Have you not shut down communication but strive to keep the lines open.

In my marriage, I have been guilty of neglect and lack of communication.

So, investigate your expectations and see if the money investment into your spouse.


Me - BS 43
Her WS- 36
3 children 13, 11, 9.
M 13 years, together 15.

Posts: 22 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: new jersey
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She can go to ACS-Army Community Service.
Their is also Army One Source
http://www.aosresourcecenter.com/
She no longer has to be referred for counseling by the primary care physician.
She can go to any counselor that accepts Tricare and see them directly. You WILL pay a copay....think it is 20%.
If she has lived through ANY kind of trauma, she will want to verify that they specialize in PTSD. Also, think some facilities have counselors at the hospitals...like Womack at Bragg, that deal with PTSD for both the military member and family members.
Also, the unit chaplains are excellent sources of finding counseling assistance. Oftentimes, they are also qualified for certain forms of counseling.
I don't know who told you Tricare doesn't cover counseling. They don't cover 100% if you go off post, but they DO cover it. I paid $25 per visit.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB

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Lostinthismess
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have prime, it covers self referral to a counselor and she can also call military one source and get extra sessions that way. She can go as much as she needs. We got 12 sessions through one source and then self referred with the same counselor through tricare. I never paid for any of it out of pocket.


Dday- 4/4/13
fwh- harrypotter
'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

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SecondHelping
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a retiree and Tricare Prime does cover IC if you get a referral. We both went to our PCMs and told them what happened and they gave us a referral. We've been to our ICs for quite awhile now and only pay the $25 co-pay. We did start with my employers EAP sessions first.

Tricare does not cover MC. That is fully paid out of pocket.

If you are Active Duty it may be different. You'll have to go to the military counsellors first. I did that during my first D-Day and got some shit counsellor. Too bad I didn't know better to go off base.


D-Day 1: Feb 1990 (2 yrs into M, Kissing and a hickey)
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/3 week PA)
BS 49- Me, fWW 43- Her (Amibroken)
OP- Deputy Chief of Police from the town next to us! (Age 37)
Married 25 Years, Together 28
3 Kids (17, 14, 11)

Posts: 469 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Delmarva
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a retiree and Tricare Prime does cover IC if you get a referral

This changed last summer. You do not need a referral for the first several sessions. You just go and find a counselor that takes Tricare.
MC is covered for 8 sessions with ACS. After 8 sessions, you can get an extension if the counselor feels it is necessary. They also recommend good, affordable ones off post if an extension can't be granted for MC.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB

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jjsr
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are you still in the service? If you are you should be able to use the Mental Health facilities on post at no cost to you. They don't report unless there has been abuse. FWH and I chose not to use the on post facilities because we don't want anything to taint his job so we pay out of pocket for private MC .


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1530 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
MindMonkey
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the replies.

I am active duty and am being seen by Medical on post. I don't really think I need any extensive IC.

I just get the feeling W will need more than a handful of sessions. She was the one that told me she had to get a referral through her PCM and I thought she said she was limited to three visits.

I guess I should look into the rules myself. Thanks again.


BH, 35
FWW, repeat offender
Reconciling since 8/1/13

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misskirby
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi there MindMonkey.

My fwh is active duty military and we have Tricare Prime as well. However, rather than going through them for our counseling, we actually went through Military One Source. Through that source, you are able to get 12 free sessions of counseling, followed by more if the counselor deems it necessary.

We were able to do both MC and IC this way. The sessions are still private; it's not like it's reported back to Military One Source or your command.

Start by creating or using your Military One Source account, and once logged on you can easily navigate to the confidential help tab, where you can select the counseling. From there, you fill out some info and they will call you back within (I believe) 48 hours. They find a counselor for you, and if you don't connect with him or her you are allowed to change.

Best of luck to you both.


Me-BS, Late 20's
Him-WH, Late 20's
M 9 years, together 14
DS and DD
D-Day 1/16/12

"Long is the way And hard, that out of Hell leads up to Light" -John Milton, Paradise Lost


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silentscream13
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My fwh is active duty military and we have Tricare Prime as well. However, rather than going through them for our counseling, we actually went through Military One Source. Through that source, you are able to get 12 free sessions of counseling, followed by more if the counselor deems it necessary.

We were able to do both MC and IC this way. The sessions are still private; it's not like it's reported back to Military One Source or your command.

We did this for IC and for MC we contacted our Community Counseling on our installation. It works the same as Military One Source. If you do not have CC on your installation, then I agree and go through Military One Source.


ME: BS- 39; HIM: WS - 40 (lostmymind13)
OW: TechnicallyMarriedEx-GF - 47
Sexting,OEA/NO PA (but was planning it before he got caught)
D-day - 11-14-13
Together: Almost 18 years; Married: Almost 15 years
4 Children
Apologies: I edit. Often.

Posts: 182 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: USA
Lostinthismess
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tricare does not cover MC. That is fully paid out of pocket.

Tricare will cover it, the mc will just submit the payment under the spouses name, not joint. That's how we are currently being seen by our mc.
Start with military one source. They are extremely helpful and professional.


Dday- 4/4/13
fwh- harrypotter
'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

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