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User Topic: So close to being done!
EB1541
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the advice guys. I am planning on trying to set money aside so I can have a plan when I leave. I don't have any family that can help my father is in prison. And my mom is an alcoholic that goes to and from guys houses. So I don't have anywhere to go at the moment.


D-day Jan. 2, 2014
Just married Nov. 3, 2013
My age: 22, his age:26
One wonderful son together - 11 months old

Posts: 87 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
SadInNC
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have a lot of courage! You can do this. You are nobody's slave, please remember that.

My husband cheated on me, yes, and that was shitty. He does laundry, cooks, cleans, never ever expects me to have his bagged lunch made. Ever. But if he needed me to do it, he would ask me nicely and I would do it for him.

When we were first married, he complained one too many times about how I folded and put away his clothes. That was 27 years ago and after that, I have never put his clothes away in his dresser ever again. When I do the laundry, I fold them and leave them on the bed. After that, he can refold them and do whatever the hell he pleases with them. I really don't care. I have stuck to this for 27 years now. OK, maybe 26 years. Maybe I took his crap for a year or so. I don't remember exactly but you get the point. They will take advantage if you let them. Sometimes, you have to set your limits.

I know you have courage, girl! I will be thinking of you. I know you can do this :)


BS/Me WH/Him

"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person


Posts: 337 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: North Carolina, United States
EB1541
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, January 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you! Guess who came home apologizing and is now kissing my a**?!


D-day Jan. 2, 2014
Just married Nov. 3, 2013
My age: 22, his age:26
One wonderful son together - 11 months old

Posts: 87 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, January 25th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guess who came home apologizing and is now kissing my a**?!

That is called 'Hoovering' as in sucking up.

EB, what you have described in you last couple of posts is the real truth in your marriage.

Your WH is a lazy cheat. He thinks if he throws you a crumb of niceness, he can get away with hours and days of being an immature asshole.

Don't fall for that childish crap. That is what a little boy would do to his mama.

You are a strong loving loyal woman. A shinning diamond in the world. Don't waste your time with a some guy who is mad at you because you are fabulous. Please.

He is showing you what he thinks of you...cheats on you weeks after you marry him and then expects you to cook, clean and earn money while he speaks to you with disdain, like your a bad servant.

BELIEVE HIM. Please don't stay with a guy who doesn't even like you. It will slowly suck your spirit dry, kill your soul.

I am planning on trying to set money aside so I can have a plan when I leave.

Stick with THIS^^^ Plan your escape. Make a better life for your son. You got this!


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
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Posts: 1138 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
CallMeRed1
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, January 25th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My EXWH was like that.

All I will say is, if you do chose to D, you won't miss the (lack of) help.

I know it's all more complicated than that but when people say to me now "don't you miss the help with the children" for example, I usually laugh and say no, because I never had any when he was there.

Thinking of you lots.


D-Day 19 July 2012
Me - BS - 42
Status: Divorced

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