I wanted to come back and update. Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond, I love hearing all the different perspectives.
BHs temper has gotten worse since the A. I never considered it a problem but I think he was teetering on the edge of it becoming an issue. It was pretty terrible on Friday night, but the next day I gave him my timeline and he was totally calm and appreciative and seemed to have calmed down a lot and realized the temper was a bit out of control.
I feel relief that it is all out there now and we had some serious bonding on Sunday so I'm still really hopeful we can continue on to full R.