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User Topic: O.L.D. Conversation ticked me off
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:35 AM, January 27th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The current guy I am dating said something similar, but then went on to clarify that the security level of his job prevents him from from having his personal cell phone with him during work. So there could be a legit reason, but if so it should have been stated. Agreed, bad delivery.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, January 27th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would be hugely offended too. How rude.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2589 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, January 27th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He said it twice???

I think I would have laughed at him. Or, knowing me and my nosy brain, would have said, "Why did you say that twice…what kinda woman have you been dealing with??"

If he texts, what are you going to say?


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4113 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, January 27th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what I'll do if he texts me. I'll have to think about that one.

Hmmm.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7574 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
I think I can
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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd text back--"please don't text me all the time."

Yeah I know. Crickets. But it's tempting.


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And....

He called me last night. I didn't hear my phone when he called, and didn't see it until later in the evening. I didn't call him back, because I know that he wouldn't want to be bothered or anything like that.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, no good reason for that. Like Ama said, if he made this about him and not liking to text that would be one thing, but you haven’t even met yet and he is already saying you need his permission to communicate. Controller, baggage, egotistical, selfish, some combination.

I’d ignore him unless by some stroke it did just come out horribly wrong, and he knows it and apologizes profusely.


Posts: 3344 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Annnnd.....he called me again tonight. We have a mutual friend. I'm very close with her, so I'm sure that she told him nice things about me.

He apparently had a " come to Jesus" moment, because he said that he would call me on Thursday, because he really wants to meet me.

Ugh. He had such potential until that statement during the first call.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7574 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
cmego
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is because you are nice.

So…playing devil's advocate….what is the harm is just giving him a second chance? I agree, his delivery sucked. But, I know I delivered a few lines I shouldn't have in the beginning.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4113 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Helen of Troy
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Shocked  Posted: 7:44 PM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We`re supposed to be on our best behavior during the initial stages. If this is his best behavior what is his worst like . my question mark is broken it types this instead:

Arrogant guy: Ìt`s ok to contact me just don`t contact me a bunch.

Worldly sophisticated, WM: It`s not ok to contact me, not even once.

NEXT!


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love how he's now contacted you twice in a row, despite telling you not to contact him so frequently.

People are so weird!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, January 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh! How dare she ignore me!!

Smells a little narc-y but I could be wrong. Maybe play along for awhile, go completely dark and just see what happens.

But I'm just evil that way.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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