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User Topic: A bit of progress : Laughing about compartimentalization
greengiant
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Member # 41196
Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hello guy's,

My WW has FOO issues. She can't express her feelings, would fake that she is happy and compartmentalize everything. She's doing IC and working on herself.

Friday night, we had a long talk and it didn't end well. Throughout the day, Saturday, she was angry and was showing it. Actually, I was happy that she wasn't hiding her feelings. In the middle of the afternoon, I asked her why she was still angry. She looked at me and said "I'm still searching for a box to put my feelings". We looked at each other and just laughed about this for 2 minutes.

Thought I could share this with you, being able to laugh about some of those things is a sign of progress I think.


ME - BS - 33
fWW - 33
Married 8 years, together 15
3 kids: 6, 4 and 2
D-Day: September 30th, 2013
She had a 6 weeks A with a COW

Posts: 141 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Quebec, Canada
karmahappens
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Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Communication is always a good thing. It's great she was able to feel her anger and you were there to let her.

Just wait til you are able to joke about the A....the first time it happens it's like

Laughter helps so much...keep up with the good work!


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3263 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Sadjacey
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Member # 41655
Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Laughter is something that has been hard for me since DD. and he doesn't understand that things he says and intends to be light hearted sometimes hurt me.


Me: BS 59
WH: 59
Married 38 years
Together almost 40 years
DDay: 11.24.12 - found emails to prostitute, porn use known for 6 years previous
Disclosure: a bit at a time, with lies along the way. Still not sure whether I have it all.
DDay 2: 20.2.13

Posts: 84 | Registered: Dec 2013
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