I tolerate a lot less these days in all aspects of our relationship and he will not take for granted what i do at home again.

Our kids are older now and are all at school. I work part time (4.5 hours a week over 3 days, very part time ) so i do take on the lions share of housework, which is fine, but he helps out a lot more at home than he used too.

I felt that she got to do the "high-payoff stuff." When we had guests, people would always praise her cooking. I always praised it, too.

Now I do at least 40-50 per cent of the cooking and she's slowly starting to help with cleaning. She did the bathtub the other day. Didn't touch the toilet. Still an improvement that she's doing any cleaning.