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Thelastknight
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, January 27th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I was sent a txt message by an xGF on New Years at exactly mid-night . I wasn't sure how to take it so I didn't respond as I have been NC since late October. The thing that gets me is why the message at Mid-night? Our split was amicable but very emotional. We broke it off clean in late May. I have been wanting to post this as it triggered me then and I triggered today.... :')


"Pain is weakness leaving the body"

Reformed BS 39 xWW 34
Two kids 5 and 2


Posts: 951 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: NW
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, January 27th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Midnight on NYE can be an intense time for some people - reflecting on the past, caught up in the emotion of the moment, and possibly lubricated to the point of making impulsive and ill-advised contact.

Not sure if any of that might apply with the xGF. I'm sorry you're triggering, knight. ((((hugs))))


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-Hayley Williams


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, January 27th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why?? To get your attention.

It sounds very intentional, to contact you at a time of looking forward. Maybe wondering if you were with someone/kissing someone at that moment…and a wee bit manipulative too…just because if you were kissing someone, then she was hoping to take your mind away from that other person.

Yeah. And possibly a little tipsy, which makes you occasionally go against your better judgement.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 3:16 AM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Was it personally addressed to you? As a lot of people send bulk text messages to everyone on their contact lists in their phone/email etc. I got a few from random people I rarely hear from but they still have my number in their phone, so I am guessing the same thing was done to me.

Maybe that's why you got one?

[This message edited by Bluebird26 at 3:16 AM, January 28th (Tuesday)]


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1331 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
absolut
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Default  Posted: 5:23 AM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She was putting a feeler out there because she hasn't found anything better.


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kalimata
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NY eve is a time to be with your love and kiss them at midnight. She was clearly missing you and wanted to reach out to you.

Did you tell your BW about this text message? If so I wouldn't wait any longer.


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Was it personally addressed to you? As a lot of people send bulk text messages to everyone on their contact lists in their phone/email etc.

^^^^This. I wouldn't assume it was anything more than a mass text.


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.


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