For me the point is to save a family if at all possible. I still loved my FWH, he was remorseful, he was willing to do the work. I was willing to give him and our family a chance. If it didn't work, if I couldn't get over the "dealbreaker" feelings, than I would divorce.
Almost 4 years later, we have a good marriage. We are very much in love with each other. We are happy. Our family is intact. That was the point for me. (((Confusedfor3)))BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson