I lost the interest myself a while back;
I'm looking forward to the day I lose interest in checking on her...
I tell him probably half the time I find myself compulsively cyber-stalking her. Luckily the frequency has diminished in the past several months. I think he finds it frustrating that I do allow her to take up any of my energy, he says he never thinks about her anymore. We're not all so lucky I guess.
During a conversation once about how I have a habit of comparing my life to hers and feeling like I am losing (since she seemingly gets to move on with no consequences while a year later I'm still waking up with nightmares and constantly assuming my husband is lying to me...) we came up with a list of things to do to distract/take care of myself instead of spiral into self-destructive and obsessive thoughts. It has things like take a vitamin, work out, journal, learn something new, etc. They're little things but still helpful to have a plan.I don't say much but I lurk around a lot. Thank you for baring your souls here, you've said the words I couldn't find and you've helped me heal more than I can say.
Me - BS
Him - FWS, serial long term EAs