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User Topic: oh lord help me....... they are divorced
imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

5 days ago to be specific. OW and her BH, he is listed first.

Lord help me!

Part of me wants to call him to see what was up but I know better.

I don't know what to feel!


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5136 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your feelings should only be reflected by the actions of your spouse. Don't let OW cause unnecessary panic. If you need to verify more often your H's actions then do so. Just because OW is D'ed doesn't mean that your H is back in an A.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

There are shortcuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them-Vicky Baum


Posts: 49747 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
GotMyLifeBck2013
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy. She paid the price for her shitty behavior. He walks away with his head held high.


I define me! I don't just survive, I thrive!!

Me: fBH 46
Her: exWW 42
DDay: Nov 1, 2012
Divorced: September 17, 2013


Posts: 271 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ohio
imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think I am worried about my WS per say, he can go if he wants to.

In a way I want to high-five her BH!


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5136 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
sadinlex
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In a way I want to high-five her BH!

Karma!


((((imagoodwitch))))


me - BW him - WH
Together 23 years, Married 21
2 children 14, 11
Dday - 4/11/2011 double betrayal
"After the A, being honest and being a bitch are pretty hard to tell apart." - Ladyogilvy

Posts: 144 | Registered: May 2011
GotMyLifeBck2013
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You should. Every betrayed spouse should get recognition for taking their own control of their own life back, whether it's in R or D.

We coddle the waywards too much with excuses and psychobabble. The party is with the BS's...


I define me! I don't just survive, I thrive!!

Me: fBH 46
Her: exWW 42
DDay: Nov 1, 2012
Divorced: September 17, 2013


Posts: 271 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ohio
imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel bad that I'm almost giddy!

Is it karma or a consequence?

Bless her BH, he didn't deserve it.

Hopefully he has closure and a fair custody schedule.


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5136 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
sadinlex
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

karma, consequence... I guess sometimes karma is the consequence

Bless her BH, he didn't deserve it.

He did not, but he deserves to be rid of her.


me - BW him - WH
Together 23 years, Married 21
2 children 14, 11
Dday - 4/11/2011 double betrayal
"After the A, being honest and being a bitch are pretty hard to tell apart." - Ladyogilvy

Posts: 144 | Registered: May 2011
undertherug
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, when you make an addition error in your checkbook, that is a mistake. A affair is a conscious choice!

Posts: 43 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We are coming up on the 5 year antiversary of DDay. I guess I have been waiting for this day since then.

I have no idea what compelled me to google him today.


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5136 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
OnAnIsland
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Default  Posted: 2:44 AM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for her BH. Stay strong. Do what you need to do. consequence, karma, whatever.

About a year after WH and marriedOW last saw each other, I googled her randomly. I wasn't doing it regularly, but just thought i should. Anyway, this led to d day somenumbergreaterthan1. I found out she was due to be in the same place we were in a few weeks. I told wh after shifting our travel to an alternate weekend. not a surprise to him. somehow he figured breaking no contact wouldn't hurt anyone. kind of like the affair wouldn't. SO something to that coincidence of you checking and finding out 5 days after decree.

Take care. you are a good witch. me too.


D-day: Christmas 2011 when i saw a text from MarriedOW to WH
D-day 2: 3/28/2013: confessed phone sex over 10 years ago (2000 or 2001) with another OW

Married for over 14 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school


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