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User Topic: Part-time lover: article
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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, January 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If only I lived in the UK I would be signing up for that site in a heartbeat.

I enjoy my independence. I ENJOY my alone time. Sometimes when I spend a day with my friends I need that quiet time by myself just to decompress. But, I don't want to rule out love and relationships and sex.

Me - happily single
Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10

Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.

Posts: 1741 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, January 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is basically what I am looking for right now, though I don't think I'd want it forever. The next couple of years sounds good though! I have kids, I have my more-than-full-time load of internship and classes and homework and dissertation. I don't have time for someone full-time, and don't want anyone moving in here anytime soon. But someone to talk to most days, who cares about me and my day, and will snuggle and make love to me on the weekend for a night or two? Perfect.

My... I don't know what he is -- we were dating for nearly a year doing this, then broke up, but now we are... its like the opposite of FWB, in that we are doing this part of the relationship but no sex (that's a whole 'nother post! ) -- well, it works beautifully for both of us. He's introverted and needs space, and is also balancing work and school and his independent life. But once a week or so we have a night together and maybe go for dinner or cook together, watch movies, talk all night and cuddle. We speak on the phone frequently and provide emotional support. We laugh together. He helps me with my house projects, and I help him with his crazy family. We occasionally hang out with each other's friends. It'll be two years in the spring and while its unconventional (and sometimes the uncertainty about the status gets to me) but it seems to be working well for both of us.

D-Day: 6/5/09, drunken ONS on business trip, confessed immediately, transparent, remorseful but emotionally clueless
M 11 years, 3 kids
4/12 Tried to R for 3 years, have decided to D
12/31/12 D final

Posts: 542 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: PacNW
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Default  Posted: 4:28 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Absolutely fascinating article...and seems like a great way to transition from exploded marriage, divorce, being alone and very busy, to would like a companion but not interested or ready yet for commitment.

Funny enough, the scientist in the video said that their stats show that 45% of these "friends with benefits" relationships turn into long term commitments...fascinating stuff.

Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 14 yrs
DS:9, DD:5
DDay: Aug '13 LTA

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Default  Posted: 5:40 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My SO (now fiance) and my relationship started this way, actually timewise it still is. He lives an hour away, but my job is in the middle. We see each other EOW when we don't have our kids, occasionally get the kids together when we do (every couple of months, usually around a certain activity), and I will head in that direction maybe one day a week when my kids are w their father. Both of our kids have thriving lives and we are putting our kids first while they are young. No rush. But I miss him more as our relationship develops....

Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 12
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

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