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Chippednotbroken
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I find myself flirting. I know I'm doing it. I tell myself nope too far, stop talking. I am divorcing. No contact since Jan 3. I checked out awhile back. Realized I wasn't in love and hadn't been even before I knew about this most recent affair (I've learned of others over the last few months). I had other issues to deal with other than the affair, he had become increasingly abusive, physically and emotionally. Called me fat and disgusting. Pointed out I had three kids (all ours mind you) and no one would ever want me.
No that I find myself unconcerned with him, I'm flirting. I have no idea if they are flirting back as I can't imagine why they would but I don't know why... I am not going to do anything, I'm confident in that but why can't I shut my mouth?


Me BS 32
DDay July 13'
3 young kids

Posts: 303 | Registered: Aug 2013
Chicky
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am no expert but it sounds to me like your self esteem took a hit with his affair(s) and hurtful comments. So, subconsciously (since you say you can't shut your mouth ) you are seeking validation from the opposite sex. Every human being wants to feel wanted particularly when they've been made to feel like no one ever would. (((((Chippednotbroken)))))


Half of the truth is a WHOLE lie.

Posts: 550 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: Somewhere Over The Rainbow
RealityStinks
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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gently, you are married, doing things that you probably should not be, and trying to justify those actions. Does that sound familiar?

I get where you are coming from. I have been there too. The attention is nice, but I do not encourage it or reciprocate it. I will not cheat on my wife. She will remain in that position until we divorce.

Hang in there.


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Chippednotbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know that's why I know better.


Me BS 32
DDay July 13'
3 young kids

Posts: 303 | Registered: Aug 2013
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