I know I'm having a pity party but I really think that I'm going to spend the rest of my life by myself.
Finally, after a couple of years of IC I have started to feel like I'm not that person xpos told me I was. I'm much better and much more than that; not at all what he said. Mostly I still have the feeling that I will spend the rest of my life alone, but maybe it has something to do with the fact that I'm not looking? Maybe I will someday.......
Then there's also the fact that I enjoy the life I have now. No one else to please, no one to consult about decisions or plans. Just me. I miss a relationship sometimes, but...... mostly not. I have a lot of friends and family that keep me busy. And I still see IC.
It will get better. Keep faith in that.
Can you start small and select one thing you want to change and work on that? Something small, it could be like going for a 10 minute walk each day or not eating after 8pm at night or 10 minutes doing meditation or yoga, or even doing a word puzzle, something just for you.
Don't feel so bad about the dropping school for now. I did the same thing recently, life just too crazy to try and fit everything in. It was the best thing I did for right now. There are only so many hours in a day, unfortunately some things have to go otherwise all we do is stress and worry.
It's ok to be alone. Try and make yourself happy rather then focusing on all the negative things you think about yourself.
I have very little 'on paper' to offer someone else there are some days I don't want my life either and I think why would anyone else want in this either. But I have come to accept, I am ok alone, if someone comes along and makes me happy then great but I am ok on my own too. You will be too.
Now, ain't that a good thing!
Now is the best time to work on yourself. If your overweight, work on it...but slowly. Don't do a crash diet, one day at a time.
Low paying job, says who? At this time at least you have a job. Is there a way to advance, go for it!
Best thing to do is always think positive and stay positive.
We have all been in your shoes thinking, who in the world would want me? You will be surprised at the reaction you get with a smile and positive attitude.
Stay strong, hang in there, it WILL get better.
Somebody's signature says this and I wrote it down, I think its great:
"Live without pretending
Love without depending
Listen without defending
Speak without offending"
Wish you the best Wipedout, it will happen.
If you're unhappy with aspects of your life, work on changing them! That's step one of a great new beginning - embrace where and who you are, and work through the stuff that you aren't able to embrace.
I hated my job, so I went back to school, got another degree, and managed to land the job of my dreams. And I ended a relationship (a really great one!) over it, because the career is my main focus right now - THAT is my new beginning.
I lost 30 pounds and ran my first race, because I was tired of feeling like crud all the time.
I started IC and yoga, and gave up on being a perfectionist, and my stress levels went way down.
You have control in your life. Exercise it, and find your happy!
Don't like your salary? Put together a plan to get a better job.
Don't like your stress level? Put together a plan to reduce stress.
Don't like your weight? Put together a plan to exercise (bonus: that will reduce stress too) & eat more fruits & veg.
Start small, BUT START
Take control Wipedout! You can do this!
(The good thing about being "Wipedout" is that you have a fresh slate)
I was definitely having a pity party.
When I look at where I was and where I'm at and going too, I have made definite strides. Okay the job I have does not pay a lot, but I now have benefits, which I did not have before. Plus, a definite bonus is I work about 10 minutes from my home, the company has all kinds of holidays, which a normal business does not usually give, and lots more vacation and sick time than I never had at my last job. So, that's definitely positive.
My weight issue. After the initial "infidelity diet" where I lost lots of weight, it came back. I walk with friends in the evening, so that's positive.
Dating, ugh, well, I date a guy from time to time, but I've slacked off on that as I actually enjoy doing things spontaneously and when I want with my daughter and friends - it's very nice not having to answer to anyone.
Another positive step I reminded myself about, is that I am going room by room in my home and redoing, repainting, etc. Right now it's the dining room, and I just tore down 13 year old wallpaper. Now to get it textured and brought up to date. Very positive!
I really appreciate all of your input. I have been looking at the little picture and not the big picture.
Have a great Saturday!