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monarchwings
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I am as sorry for your loss. I have walked in your shoes. My DD died suddenly during her nap when she was a toddler. There were no prexisting conditions. I still cannot understand how a normal day turned so horribly wrong. I know how numb I was g or a long time, then the pain of grief , then the destruction of my marriage. I miss her every. I miss saying her name. Its tough and I know your heart feels like its going to literally rip in two. Its hard to see that you will get through this and when you do its hard to accept the unacceptable. But time does heal. He was your son and your love and the bond you create with your children is immortal. I will pray for you during this difficult time. Please know that time does heal slighly. You dont get over it, you get better at dealing with it.

Posts: 108 | Registered: Jul 2013
Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so, so very sorry for your loss.

Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: NW
mom of 2
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my heart breaks for you! My sincerest condolences on the loss of your son.

I have not experienced the loss of a child but unfortunately since I joined SI, I know there are many members who have been through this. I hope you will find the support you are seeking by starting this thread. I am grateful (for you) to the members that have walked in your shoes and have replied. This community offers tremendous compassion when you need it.

Wishing you and your family peace and strength.

(((lonely2009)))


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13326 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
weeping willow
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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((lonely))))

I sent you a pm.


BW - me FWH - him
D Day - July 26, 2007
Married 36 years


Posts: 1793 | Registered: Feb 2009
jjsr
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Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Can


"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divor


Posts: 1428 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
circe
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so, so sorry.

((((lonely))))


Posts: 3196 | Registered: Mar 2005
EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry - what a horrible, tragedic thing.

There is no right way to grieve. Don't let anyone make you think you should or shouldn't be doing certain things at certain times. You do whatever you have to do and don't let anyone else determine it.

I am so glad you reached out to us. In the very remote chance that anyone here could figure out who you were....I am certain they would never 'out' ya. They are good beans here.

Again - sooo sorry!


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


Posts: 2181 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry.

There are no words....

(((Lonely2009)))


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


Posts: 1500 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((lonely2009)))

So very sorry for your loss.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 4000 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
velveteer
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((lonely))) no words at all....you and yours are in my thoughts


Divorced

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Skan
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are times when there are simply no adequate words. I am so very sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4949 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Bobbi_sue
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. We lost DD when she was 24 too, over 7 years ago now. Reading your story, I cannot talk about it or write about it without crying and don't want to do that with my H sitting here, so I'll stop writing.

PM me any time.


Posts: 5760 | Registered: Apr 2006
hurting2much
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((lonely)))). I am so very sorry to hear about your son. I too lost my son, he was 21, unexpectedly. When I heard the news, half of me immediately died too. It has been 1 1/2 years.

I am in counseling and attend a parents grief group. The grief group has been my lifeline.

PM me if you would like to. It is still so very raw for you. I am so very very sorry...no parent should ever have to go through this.


Divorced

Posts: 1109 | Registered: Sep 2009
roseguide
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((lonely2009)))))))
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.


In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of the things not meant for you. Buddhist saying

Posts: 209 | Registered: May 2012 | From: New Jersey
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So very sorry.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2247 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry for your loss.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24597 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 1:44 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss. (((Lonely)))


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 767 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry.


BW -- 57
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary

Posts: 427 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry for your tremendous loss.


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