Topic: My son died...
Member # 39891
| Posted: 1:00 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
Oh I am as sorry for your loss. I have walked in your shoes. My DD died suddenly during her nap when she was a toddler. There were no prexisting conditions. I still cannot understand how a normal day turned so horribly wrong. I know how numb I was g or a long time, then the pain of grief , then the destruction of my marriage. I miss her every. I miss saying her name. Its tough and I know your heart feels like its going to literally rip in two. Its hard to see that you will get through this and when you do its hard to accept the unacceptable. But time does heal. He was your son and your love and the bond you create with your children is immortal. I will pray for you during this difficult time. Please know that time does heal slighly. You dont get over it, you get better at dealing with it.
Posts: 92 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 39901
| Posted: 1:04 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
I am so, so very sorry for your loss.
Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: In a better place
|mom of 2|
Member # 11214
| Posted: 1:40 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
Oh my heart breaks for you! My sincerest condolences on the loss of your son.
I have not experienced the loss of a child but unfortunately since I joined SI, I know there are many members who have been through this. I hope you will find the support you are seeking by starting this thread. I am grateful (for you) to the members that have walked in your shoes and have replied. This community offers tremendous compassion when you need it.
Wishing you and your family peace and strength.
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.
Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)
Posts: 13289 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
Member # 22800
| Posted: 2:09 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
I sent you a pm.
BW - me FWH - him
D Day - July 26, 2007
Married 36 years
Posts: 1793 | Registered: Feb 2009
Member # 34353
| Posted: 2:17 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
I am so sorry for your loss
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1593 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 37451
| Posted: 2:31 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.
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dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
attempted R, it was all a lie
Posts: 1257 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
Member # 6687
| Posted: 2:39 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
I'm so, so sorry.
Posts: 3183 | Registered: Mar 2005
Member # 24210
| Posted: 2:53 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
I am so sorry - what a horrible, tragedic thing.
There is no right way to grieve. Don't let anyone make you think you should or shouldn't be doing certain things at certain times. You do whatever you have to do and don't let anyone else determine it.
I am so glad you reached out to us. In the very remote chance that anyone here could figure out who you were....I am certain they would never 'out' ya. They are good beans here.
Again - sooo sorry!
Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.
Posts: 2014 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
Member # 36853
| Posted: 3:43 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
I am so very sorry.
There are no words....
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs
Posts: 1394 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Member # 35619
| Posted: 3:58 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
So very sorry for your loss.
D final 8/2012
Posts: 3667 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
Member # 30997
| Posted: 4:00 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
(((lonely))) no words at all....you and yours are in my thoughts
Posts: 861 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 35812
| Posted: 4:12 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
There are times when there are simply no adequate words. I am so very sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 4588 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 10347
| Posted: 6:22 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
I am so sorry. We lost DD when she was 24 too, over 7 years ago now. Reading your story, I cannot talk about it or write about it without crying and don't want to do that with my H sitting here, so I'll stop writing.
PM me any time.
Posts: 5685 | Registered: Apr 2006
Member # 25643
| Posted: 6:43 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
((((lonely)))). I am so very sorry to hear about your son. I too lost my son, he was 21, unexpectedly. When I heard the news, half of me immediately died too. It has been 1 1/2 years.
I am in counseling and attend a parents grief group. The grief group has been my lifeline.
PM me if you would like to. It is still so very raw for you. I am so very very sorry...no parent should ever have to go through this.
Posts: 1101 | Registered: Sep 2009
Member # 35697
| Posted: 6:52 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
D final 12/3/12 6 months and 4 days from D-day
My only missteps were; 1. Listening to lies because I didn't want to see the painful truth, 2. Letting it go on this long, 3. Being capable of love beyond all reason and condition - Eumenides, SI member
Posts: 183 | Registered: May 2012 | From: New Jersey
Member # 34262
| Posted: 7:20 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
So very sorry.
Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish
Posts: 2081 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Member # 26531
| Posted: 9:19 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014|
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Posts: 24361 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 33523
| Posted: 1:44 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
I'm so sorry for your loss. (((Lonely)))
Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
Everything is as it should be.
Posts: 733 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Member # 11185
| Posted: 6:16 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
I am so very sorry.
BW -- 57
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
Posts: 411 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
Member # 27325
| Posted: 7:17 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014|
I am so very sorry for your tremendous loss.
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